okay my family is starting to hate me because of this!!!!!
i have a thing for guys that are below me .. like they are from nothing, drop out's... you know those guys... big tall... basically alot of guys from this little town outside of my home town.. there white.. just ghetto
now my family is not at all like this! my brother won't talk to me anymore because of it
i'm only 18, and i did date a guy like that for a year, but i ended up leaving him i just can't seem to get myself to like the type of guys i know i should!! help me plzz
2007-07-12 05:16:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm sorry to the man who called my family n i snobs... but they have worked to damn hard to see me end up with some dumb boy that doesn't want to HELP HIMSELF... i think i answered my own question...
2007-07-12 05:54:05 · update #1
Don't date. Get yourself together. Don't be so needy. Do something to help someone else that will give you some self-esteem so you'll feel better about yourself and not date these losers.
2007-07-12 05:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all it's not good to have an attitude which indicates that you are better than anyone else. just because they are high school dropouts doesn't necessarily mean stupid. some of the smartest and wealthiest people i might add, didn't finish high school. but thats beside the point. your young your gonna make some mistakes when it comes to dating. you'll soon find out what you really want in a man. as for your family, they are just over reacting. just take whatever they are dishing out but don't let it get at you. the last thing you need right now is your family making you feel unwelcome, thus leading you into the arms of another man who might not be the best thing for you. keep your head up and think for yourself. when you let other people decide what you want... it always leads to heartbreak.
2007-07-12 12:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look for the good ones with just a little bit of "bad" in them. I'm attracted to the bad ones too. And I found one that's actually good for me. Either way, why should it matter if they "came from the wrong side of the tracks?" They could be a good person on the inside even if they are ghetto or dropped out of school. If you're happy with those guys, then no one else's opinion should matter. Do what makes you happy, because in the end that's all that's gonna matter. If you try to make others happy, you'll never make yourself happy. Talk to your family and tell them that you wished they would support your decisions. You're an adult now and you should be able to make your own. Whether they agree or not, they should still support you.
2007-07-12 12:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by kjcs_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are playing the feild that if ok. You are wasting your time with guys that you really do not want to have a real relationship with. If it is ruining your family and you do not tend to marry or have a real relationship with these kinds of men why ruin your family relationship for over these guys they are not worth it obvisouly. Just take a break from dating for a little while and look at yourself and take care of yourself first then when you want to date again see what kind of man you see yourself with for a very long long time. Im sure you would want a succesful, confident, respectful, man. So when you are ready to date look for those quilities in a man. I am not saying he has to be rich but at least as a decent job. That is why your family is so mad because they see you wasting your time with men that you are not caring about their future and if they dont care about that how in the world are they truly gonna care about yours and his? They want you to be a succeful woman. They do not want you to have a good future and if you keep messing with the wrong men who do not want to make anything of themselves your family may feel like he will be holding you back from you making something of yourself. They just want the best for you. They love you very much.
being gheto really has nothing to do with "a good man"
just because they may live in a bad area or whatever does not mean they do not want more. You are dating men who do not want to make anything of themselves most likely. That is what you need to get away from.
GOOD LUCK hope this helps
2007-07-12 12:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to date low life losers? Never have enough money for food or the rent and go on welfare to support the 3 or 4 kids you and genius will one day have? Go for it, I can't imagine why your family thinks this is such a bad idea. After all, you are 18 and you know it all. Maybe it's not that the type of guy you should like, you don't, maybe it's that they've seen you with the dumpster diver dude and don't want you.
2007-07-12 12:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either:
1. Live your life the way you want it (if you really want to date these guys - you said you know you shouldn't be). Do what YOU want.
2. Realize that you don't need anyone more than yourself. The right man will come along, if you put out the effort to "see" him: recognize the qualities of the person, needs, wants, and overall goodness he has to share with you.
2007-07-12 12:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why your family is angery at you. But heres the thing its your life and they should support you no matter what you do. Now as long as those guys do not threat you badly do not put you in danger. Then i see no problem why you can not be happy with someone you like. If they can not understand that then its there problem do not worry about it. Just live life and try to be happy with your other half.
2007-07-12 12:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by whitehawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an insecurity issue. perhaps you believe that you don't deserve better. girl, let me tell you something! EVERYONE deserves better! You're still very young, but old enough to know that guys like that are only gonna hold you back and do absolutely nothing for you. I get the whole "bad boy" image thing, that pulls you towards them, but that's all it is........BAD!!!! You need to find someone with goals and ambition! good luck!
2007-07-12 12:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to be in control in a relationship. The best way to overcome that is get a great education so you can meet more open minded people.
2007-07-12 12:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to go to therapy and get some help. You choose these guys for a reason and its really not healthy. I am sure you are a beautiful, smart young girl and have a whole life ahead of you. You deserve better. Please get some help and find happiness. :) Good Luck!!!
2007-07-12 12:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by scrapbookindiva79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋