I just found out my ex-girlfriend contracted AIDS from the guy she cheated on me with. For some reason I feel satisfied that she got what she deserved. I feel really bad for thinking this way but she hurt me so much! How would you feel?
2007-07-12 05:05:07 · 66 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not a bad person- you're human. I would feel the same way, too. Is it right? no. But we're humans, and we feel that Karma or Revenge or whatever should be carried out towards people.
2007-07-12 05:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. No you should feel bad for thinking that. Sure, you feel vindicated but she just contracted AIDS....that means she eventually will die (unless we come up with a cure!) that means everyone around her is affected, her mom her dad, her entire family, friends, etc. All the possibilities in her life have now changed. She is facing a life threatening disease and you are thinking "ha ha". Shame on you.
So you were hurt....you will heal. She wont. Think about that.
2007-07-12 05:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by LeJess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure anyone would feel this way, but they just don't admit it. It doesn't make you a "bad" person because it's not like you thinking this way gave her AIDs, she did this to herself. And maybe it was karma's way of coming back around to her. BUT it doesn't exactly make you a very caring, thoughtful person to feel this much animosity over a girl who obviously isn't worth it. Move on and forget about her, you deserve much better anyway. Good Luck
2007-07-12 05:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you feel like that and I think it's a usual reaction, but it's not right. That shows that you're full of hatred and all that does is fill your life with bitterness. As long as you have that feeling in you, you will never get really over her. Try to forgive her, when you learn to feel compassion for her as if she was any other person with AIDS then you will be able to continue with your life and feel complete as a person.
2007-07-12 05:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal to feel satisfied, that's human nature. Instincts always come first, even though some people will never admit it.
However, don't let it be anything more than a small satisfaction, don't ever show that you think she got what she deserved. No one deserves to be so cruelly punished. If she turns to you for advise or emotional support don't let her down.
2007-07-12 05:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by A J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually i would feel really bad for her. I know she hurt you but I think AIDS is a little too serious to play the "now you get what you deserve" game. And aren't you worried that you might have AIDS too, since she cheated on you with him?
2007-07-12 05:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by anjoli16 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think i would feel somewhat like you. and the fact is you are not a bad person its actually normal to think that way. however it is immature. AIDS is serious and so is cheating. but think about it you still have the opportunity to healthily(don't know if that's a word) move on with your life. and once you get over yourself you'll feel bad. if not for her then for her family that will also have a lot of stuff to deal with
2007-07-12 05:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u r nt a bad person but the circumstances are bad,,i think she got more than wht she deserved,,i think u should atleast show some sympathy with her n try to help her out because i believe even though she did wrong to u atleast u dont want to commit the same mistake again,so try to forget the bad times u had with her but just think about the good times u had in ur bad times??she will realize her mistake soon that she actually left a pearl only to get wrapped in a web!!god bless ur gf
2007-07-12 05:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by srzberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im kinda like you so you better go get checked out to make sure you didnt contract it too ! she deserves what she got yea it is bad to feel that way but you should never cheat and lie so she made her bed now she has to lay in it sorry but thats how i feel
2007-07-12 05:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for you to look to retribution of the crimes of your ex. - and it is human nature to find a punishment for the crime. I am sorry this has happened to your friend and I am sorry it came about because she cheated on you. Everyone loses in this scenario and I hope you do find a way to make peace with her, as forgiveness will be an important part of her healing / journey. Have mercy. Talk to her, be honest and settle the ghosts.
2007-07-12 05:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋