My bf and I have been together for 2 years. My family does not like him because they think that I should be with a doctor or a lawyer because I am lawyer. His family loves me and includes me in everything. My family does not invite him to anything. He feels it is unfair and I don't know what to do about it. Talking to my family is a waste of time as they are stuck in their ways. I fear that he is going to get tired of the drama and look for someone with less drama. What should I do?
2007-07-12 04:31:21 · 9 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What should you do? Stop worrying about what your family says. Its none of their business.
2007-07-12 04:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is really important to you and you see the relationship lasting then you should hang on to that relationship and work on your family till they come around. However if you do decide this path you must be aware that it could be difficult if your family get angry at you for this. Since i dont know your family i cant gauge that.
However there is no point staying with him if you dont see the relationship as long term although i do think you do as you have been with him for two years.
If you want the relationship to last sit down and talk to him about it. Explain that you are trying your hardest with your family and that you cant change their thinking. Perhaps you can find some way of viewing it differently and maybe a plan of action to bring your family around.
You dont want to regret a decision so decide what is most important before making any steps.
2007-07-12 11:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by firefly_bethy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truly love him? Then sit your family down and let them know how you feel. You need to set ground rules...The only reason they continue to behave this way is because you allow it. If after you talk to them and they continue to alienate him, you have to decide if he is worth distancing yourself from your family for awhile. But, the rules need to apply to him also. No talking about each others loved ones.
Do you think you are an intelligent woman? Strong? Independent? Then they need to trust your judgment on who you give your heart to! A person is not defined by what they do for a living, a person is defined on how he lives. Is he a good man? Is he hardworking and trustworthy?
You need to make a decision about who you want to be with and where you spend your time.....
2007-07-12 11:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy, then stay with him. If your family really loves you, then they will respect your decision. They may not agree with it, but they should at least try and make an attempt to accept him. Now, if this guy is a bum or lazy and is with you just because you have a career that he can sponge off of and just for sex, then maybe you should think about what your family is saying.
2007-07-12 11:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask him his opinion of your family situation. Let his answer guide you. Is having a strong connection to his spouses family important to him? That may be a deciding factor. But- you don't get married because you like somebody's family, so you wouldn't not get married because you don't get along with their family. I think as long as you have one strong source (this being his family) backing you up, your relationship should prosper.
2007-07-12 11:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your bf then don't pay any attention to what your family says. Money isn't everything. If I had a boyfriend/husband that my family wouldn't invite to anything, then I wouldn't go myself.
2007-07-12 11:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, and he loves you, none of this matters. Tell him that your family will probably never except him, but you love him, and will always love him and his family, so what your family says doesnt matter! Make it clear to him, and if he isnt satisfied with you loving him, he isnt worth it.
2007-07-12 11:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by answerme143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make it clear to your family that you chose this man to spend your life with. If they dont invite him to family functions then you need not go either...maybe if they see that they cant sway you then they will accept him a bit more
2007-07-12 11:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by tee_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so stay away from the drama. if both of you aren't included then both of you don't attend.
2007-07-12 11:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋