ok ladies, if you had a choice would you have a male or female obgyn?

Question

I myself feel more comfortable with a female rather than a male. I actually switched obgyn's because the male doctor that I was going to barely even listened to a word I said and he treated his patients like cattle. My new female doctor is amazing. She's open minded, listens, and has great advice (plus she has two kids so she's been in my shoes before!) So what do you think, if you had a choice, would you go with a male or female doc and why? I'm not trying to discriminate against male obgyns, but I trust female ones more than males especially if they've had children before. They know the kinda pain we go through, ect, ect.

The ones of you that have found good male doctors, I am so jealous of you. The male doctors that I have seen in the past (even when I wasn't pregnant) were so cold and not gentle at all. It seems to be a rare thing to get good male doctors around here. Where I live, there is a surplus of female docs (that have kids) and a few of my friends that have also been pregnant said theirs were great too.

Answer 1

I agree with u...I actually went with a midwife and she is great...She spends as much time as I need, answering questions and what not. I feel more comfortable with a female, just because of how much u have to be "exposed" during the pregnancy process and labor! But if your comfortable with your female OBGYN then I'd definitely stay with her!!

congrats on the baby

Answer 2

I think there are good male doctors out there, but personally I prefer a female. I got an OBGYN as part of a group of women who all have had children. I love the fact that they know exactly what I am going through. It makes me feel more comfortable. To me a man just will never fully know.

Answer 3

Female, I read an interesting article the other day that stated that obgyn have fallen into a pattern of thinking that pregnancy is a disease and birth is an operation. Unfortunately in my town we only have male obgyn, but if I had a choice it would also be female, because they're more compassionate and understanding (I'm speaking in general of course) It feels to me that sometimes the males think we women are nuts, but we know our own bodies better than they would. Sometimes I'm afraid to ask my gynae about somethings because I'm afraid of the reaction I'll get.

Answer 4

I prefer women honestly. I don't like docs (I use family practice until I have to swith to an ob/gyn) that understand what the issues are and the feelings, etc. It's just an all around better feeling. I'm not saying that there aren't some awesome male ob's out there, and if ones on call when that baby comes I don't give a flyin hoot about their sex so long as they can catch lol.

Answer 5

Well with my first i didnt get to choose and was given a male obgyn...
and i didnt feel to comfortable with him..
But this time around when i told my dr i needed a pregnancy test done and he said if i was pregnant he would have to refer me to a obgyn i asked if i could have a female instead and he said sure... so now i have a female obgyn and shes also pregnant and due the same day as me!!!...
so i find it much more comforting..

Answer 6

I have never based my choices solely on gender.. but that said...

I have had a very bad experience with the only two female OBs I have seen - both were very rough, very callous, and belittling to my having been a proactive consumer and educated to my options in reproductive and sexual health. Because of that, I chose 3 different OBs (3 different situations required my switching) that were alll male for my prenatal care and birth of my first 4 children.

I am very picky and 'interview' my birth team extensively. I have probably interviewed close to 30 different practitioners and settled on my 3 male OBs... THAT said, I chose a female midwife for my last birth. And, even though I loved my male OBs, I was completely smitten, in love, enraptured with my midwife.

Answer 7

I would stick with the female doctor you have, because she sounds much better.

I use to be that way too about male vs female obgyn's. But for whatever reason, my female doctors weren't available when I had my kids (one was in labor with her own at the time). Of course, when you're in labor you don't care that much. It was a very fleeting thought for me at the time. However, I found that all three that dilivered my kids were wonderful doctors too. So, I guess it just depends on the doctor. I would highly recommend my male doctors, but there are some out there that just don't get it. You kind of have to wing it and go with who you are comfortable with when you can.

Answer 8

Male... not strictly by choice though.. he's in a specialty that i need and he's the best in the area. But beyond that I am very comfortable with him and it's never been an issue. To be honest he's better then the females that I've had before..

Answer 9

I never did have a male obgyn, but my experience at the start of my pregnancy consisted of a pap smear and my obgyn, the nurse and a male student who just made the whole situation uncomfortable because it was like they were using my body to show him what to do LOL! I was just lying there naked like ohhh my god...but I would give a male obgyn a chance. I would prefer it if he had some experience!

Answer 10

Hi

I have a female obgyn and she is amazing, she's already a mommy , is very sweet, listens, understands and gives me real answers. I don't like a male ob just because he's never gonna know how i'm really feeling, and the "it's normal" answer doesn't do it for me. So I completely agree with you.