My cousin's ex-girlfriend is pregnant with their child. He found out she's having a girl and wants to name the child Elise. (After his mother who died 18 months ago) His ex says no and wont even comprimise for a middlename. She wants to name the child Lola (A name my cousin hates.)
In this situation does the father have any say in what his child is named? Do you think he should?
2007-07-12 03:51:51 · 39 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
I think he should have some say. They may not be together anymore, but he is the father and seems like he's going to be there for his daughter. I think Elise is beautiful and what a better way to honor his mother than name his daughter after her. The ex-girlfriend must be heartless!!
2007-07-12 03:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by Madmas 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well with a couple... I'd say the man should have say.. but in this situation they're no longer together. And I'm sure he hasn't been there through the pregnancy the same as he would've been had they been together. She's carrying the child which is a big job ya know! Basically he had the easy part.... guess you can just call him the sperm donor. I'm not trying to sound negative because I don't know the situation but since they're not together any more... it's just different than how it would be if they were.
2007-07-12 04:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should have a say - it's his child too. .
Elise is a nice name, and there are so many variations that can be used if she really doesn't like it. If all else fails, there is no reason why it can't be used as a middle name or even a second middle name.
Penelope Elise would be darling. Lola is a common nickname for Penelope, but it also offers options for the dad. He can call her Penelope, Penny, Nell, etc.
Anyways, point of this post was to say yes, the dad deserves just as much say as the mom, as long as it's certain the dad is going to be around to participate in his child's life. If he isn't going to be around much, maybe he should forfiet his naming rights.
Good luck to your family!
2007-07-12 04:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Verity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He *should* have a say...
But legally? I'm not sure. Is he planning on paying child support? Has he been with his ex helping her through the pregnancy? Was it a bad break up?
I'd be hesitant myself to name my child after anything that would remind me of my ex, especially if he had no plans to be an active part in the child's life. If he's planning on being around then she *should* take his thoughts into consideration... after all they made a child together, you'd think they could come to some kind of agreement on a name.
2007-07-12 04:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by Arneb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should compromise. He can't say what the name should be and neither can she. If she hates the name Elise-then no the name should not be that and the same goes for Lola. They need to pick a name they both like.
2007-07-12 06:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by ShootingStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father should have a say in the babies name. Especially if he is willing to step up & take responsibility. I dont know if there is anything legal he can do about it. But he definately needs to continue to talk to her & try to work something out. Elise is a beautiful name & I think she is a fool to not use it, even if it is just the middle name.
2007-07-12 06:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by leashell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the baby's mom and dad are no longer together...then I hate to say it but I think the mom has more of a say. The mom will have the baby 90% - 100% of the time. Dad's can and do walk away from children very easily, mom's can't do that. She has the right to name her daugter whatever she wants of they are not together. Although...I don't think she should name her daughter solely out of spite for her ex. She'll regret that.
2007-07-12 05:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say that being an ex...no he does not have a say in the naming. she will be the one carrying, laboring, delivering, and caring for the child, and believe me (i am a mother) the labor and delivery give the woman the right to name the child anything she wants.
and where i'm from (s. carolina) if the parents are not married they don't ask the father about the name they only ask the mother.
2007-07-12 03:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by pocahontas80_1999 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes its his child as much as hers, but he should every right to choose a name aswell as her and id say Elise, is a way better name than lola.
2007-07-12 04:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally the mother and father should agree on the name, but if necessary the mom should have the final say. Since the mom and dad aren't together, the mom should probably get to make the final choice.
2007-07-12 06:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sydney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋