He pushed me and I went ahead and reported it to the police since I went to seek medical help. I am doing much better now and we both looking to probably go our seperate ways. I want to move on from my past and really do not want him to go through any more legal procedures... is there anything I can do?
2007-07-12 02:41:15 · 18 answers · asked by Miami_Babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah stick with your charge and don't back down. Make him think twice before he pushes another woman. Pushing is the first step before hitting. Do you think you would feel anything if you found out later in life that he beat up on another woman? Let him go through the legal system and learn his lesson. Glad you're moving on and out of his life. Good luck.
2007-07-12 02:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by floridagirl1261 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Allot of states will go through with Domestic Abuse charges even if you chose to drop all charges.
My advice would be to not "probably" go your separate ways but to definitely get away from him. Once an abuser always an abuser, you cannot change him.
Contact the local law enforcement and ask them what will happen if you were to drop the charges. There may not be anything you can do other then to let the system take it's due course.
2007-07-12 02:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Truce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusing and assaulting anyone is a serious matter.Imagine If he can push u this time, he can beat u up too the next time if he doesnt want to change or control his temper.No doubt abt he going to jail for his actions and must face the consequences.Leaving him is a wise choice before its too late.Wish u the best and even though im a guy, feel free to drop me a email.There's always light at the other end of the tunnel.Be strong and sincerely wsihes u well.
2007-07-13 19:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by chasen54 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Saffy,
You have not only done yourself a favor, you have helped another woman in the future. You should have and you did report your husband's bad behavior. Now he has a record. What he did was wrong, whether or not your marriage continues. Leave the charges in place and let him face the consequences. He worked hard to be put in this position and if you let him off, he will not only do it again, he will do worse. This type of personality needs to learn that this behavior will not be tolerated. You should not have had to deal with this and no other woman should have to, either.
You are wise to leave. Help someone else and leave him to face the consequences. Good luck, Sweetie!! :)
2007-07-12 02:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might be able to drop the charges, but when he does it again, you are going to look like the Little Boy that cried Wolf. If it happened once, it will happen again, maybe not to you, but his next girlfriend/wife. There is no excuse for pushing, hitting your mate. If it is that bad get away, and stay away.
2007-07-12 02:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word is PROBABLY...if he is putting his hands on you there should be no doubt in your mind that you need to separate. As far as you not wanting him to go through any more legal procedures had ne not pushed you in the first place it wouldnt have been necessary...who knows what else he might do if you dont stand your ground.
2007-07-12 02:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't press charges. A simple assault is only a misdemeanor.
Maybe even tell the courts you used to encourage him to push you around a little bit. Which is not true but it can help his case. Tell them you both used to push each other all the time and you both allowed it, but this time you got angry.
2007-07-12 02:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can drop the charges and request the police do the same, but they can still prosecute if they feel it's necessary.
2007-07-12 02:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by Don A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if the state took it over there is nothing you can do and when it goes to court you really should make sure that you are 100 percent honest about what happened. even though you want to move on, you dont want him to do to someone else what he done to you, do you?
2007-07-12 03:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the Uk, its likely that the CPS will take the case and there will be nothing you can do. You could try to drop the charges. But why would you want to? If he was violent towords you he deserves to be punished, whether you forgive him or not.
2007-07-12 02:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋