Should we just expect this behavior when we are married or is it really worth breaking up about?
2007-07-12 02:37:48 · 55 answers · asked by yanni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all men do. I would never be able to live with myself if I did that to my wife. Breaking up over it is your choice. If you can tolerate it for the good things he does then thats up to you. I would never do it and would never tolerate it. Have you confronted him about it? Did he blow it off? What was his reaction? Those are things to think about as your deciding what to do. Good luck and stay strong
2007-07-12 03:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do married women cheat? The answer is the same.
As far as your second question is concerned: I've been happily married for seven years, and I have never cheated. Never will, either. Men (and women) cheat because either they are unsatisfied with their marriage (although this is a really lame excuse), or because they are selfish and think they can get away with it. If your beau cheats because of the former reason, then maybe you can get some marriage counseling and work it out. If it is the latter, then you just married the wrong guy. Either way, I'd say it IS worthy of breaking up. When a lot of these selfish pricks that cheat on their spouses start losing their loved ones every time they cheat, they'll be more likely to stop and act like an adult. Cheating is NOT inevitable.
2007-07-12 02:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They cheat for the same reasons they cheat when you're just dating. That varies from man to man, but it shouldn't be expected. All men aren't like that, even though alot of them are. But it's definitely worth breaking up over. I was told the foundation for any relationship is trust. Once one of you cheats, the trust is gone. The other is always gonna wonder what the other one's doing when they're not together. Me and my girl had an issue like that once. She was flirting with some other guy while she was at work, and they became real buddy-buddy; talking on tha phone all the time. Me being vengeful like I am, I started talking to some girl at the bar when it was supposed to be a date. I got her number and started calling her. We worked it out, plus she got fired. So, she didn't even cheat and I was ready to split. Nobody's perfect, and people are attracted to many different characteristics in a woman. So a married man may find a flaw in his wife, and then find a woman who doesn't have the same flaw, yet has some of the same characteristics that attracted him to his wife. I don't know why all cheaters do it, but hopefully I've given you some insight into the situation.
2007-07-12 02:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by BWes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating cannot be associated with all married men and or all the people in love. It is an isolated incident in marriages and basically it occurs when an opportunity presents itself. That is saying although couples do cheat on one another, in most cases it happens by chance but not by design. It also happens when one of the partners is not sexually satisfied in marriage.
It is not something that someone intending to marry should fear, but rather should be concious of and put prohibitive measures in place; which should include the old age tendency of keeping your partner away from preying suitors. Making sure you satisfy your partner sexually , as well as maintain close relationship with one another.
2007-07-12 03:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kaka M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should expect the behavior so much as you should talk about it and lay your cards down on the table so you both know what to expect if that does ever happen. No one wants to do it, not in their right mind but it can sneak up on you when you least expect it. My first 2 years I was straight, no thoughts of anything, then I don't know what happened I got claustrophobic and started f* up really bad. I struggled with that for a while and finally got myself right after getting hurt a few times, or feeling bad about hurting other people. These days i'm rather indifferent about it; I mean the opportunities present themselves, but I'm just like, whatever. Girls are fine too, so you sort of feel obligated, lol, but I'm so sick of playing the games, girls being jealous of my old lady, mad because I don't take them seriously, don't respect them, so and so forth, it just isn't worth it. Never f* anybody though, but even still too often it's just like wtf, wtf am I doing, wtf I've been through this before, wtf is this all about, whatever.
It is worth breaking up about; just because my old lady is still around I don't necessarily feel that it isn't worth breaking up about, or even that she shouldn't have done so with me. Sometimes you have to loose what you have to reallly know what you've got, and at times that can happen within the context of the relationship and at times it just isn't. It may serve a man right to be with some b* he couldn't stay away from just to see her cheat on him and make his life miserable so he can be right for someone else in the future, nothing wrong with that. It is a very personal experience you have to make for yourself; whether you two have something worth salvaging, or you would be better off alone.
2007-07-12 03:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is worth breaking up over. "SOME" men are dogs and could care less about others feelings if they cared and loved you enough they wouldn't do it. I think they do it because they get bored, and They don't handle temtation very well! Some just don't know how to say NO when the oprtunity comes up, I was cheated on in my last relationship and I have learned so much from it. Instead of sitting around all depressed wondering if there was somehtign wrong w/ me I realized there was nothing wrong w/ me at all and I was glad it happend b/c it was in my best intrest I am w/ someone now who treats me like a queen and gives me ALL his love I would never suspect any thing from him.
2007-07-12 02:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by We're Engaged 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
temptation, the same reason married women cheat,, temptation.
now if and when two people truly love each other and their attraction for each other is based on million and one reasons, then the tempation is none or not enough to drive the married man,, excuse me,, the married person to cheat.
2007-07-12 02:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by jorge e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't expect it...and no, not all married men cheat...don't forget that...=). Why do they cheat? many reasons...and there is no good reason to cheat, either. Yes, it's worth breaking up over for sure! Don't put up w/ it!
2007-07-12 02:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That should be why do some married men cheat. Cheating is not excusable and reflects a flaw in the man and or the marriage. Unless remedied the cheating will continue..
2007-07-12 02:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No you shouldn't expect this kind of behavior... sometimes men and women think the "grass" is greener on the other side, or sometimes its mid life crisis thing going on.. or sometimes they are just selfish.
is it worth breaking up over... YOU BET it is.. my feeling is once they cheat once.. they will do it again.
2007-07-12 02:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by one_goofy_devil 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋