2007-07-12 02:32:34 · 9 answers · asked by Caroline 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents are a good example of your question. My folks were hard core into church and christianity. At home though my dad used this as a way to abuse my mom and get away with it. He would yell Obey or Pay, women are supposed to submit...#$@$@ed up!! He had several affairs, hit my mom, and worse. She finally divorced him after 13 years of this crap. Now 16 years later, my mom leads a life true to her beleifs, she runs a medical mission in Guatemala to help the poor receive health care. My dad just got arrested for stalking his third ex-wife. Get rid of the abuser....
2007-07-12 04:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by she sees 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, have you hit home with me this morning. I have just lived through this for the last two years. The guilt that comes with leaving is overwhelming. I can show you many scriptures that tell you God wants you to be Happy and live an Abundant life. That doesn't mean you should stay in a relationship that is abusive, verbally or physically. Email me please. lssunnybunz@yahoo.com. My divorce was final Yesterday and I have never been on a better track.
2007-07-12 02:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Caroline,
Actually, there is a phrase in The Bible that might apply.
2 Corinthians 6:14 says:
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" (KJV)
Another translation:
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (NIV)
A third translation:
"Do not be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? How can light live with darkness?" (LB)
I would think that if your husband is abusive, he is not living the life a committed Christian would live. Therefore, this would be your "out clause."
Good luck to you, hon. Make certain that you sit down with your pastor and discuss this situation. I think you will get the answers you need there. There is one more thought that applies here. In 1 Corinthians 6:19, we are told to treat our bodies as a temple because they are not our own, but belong to Christ. Therefore, if you are suffering physical abuse and allowing it to happen, you must remove yourself from this abuse. It is not right for one person to inflict harm on another in marriage and then hide behind the idea that the one being harmed cannot leave the marriage. I really don't think that you should worry about leaving. Marrying again might be another matter, though. Again, talk with your pastor and pray about your future. There are deep places here about which we ordinary folks are not equipped to advise you. Your immortal soul is precious. Be careful with it and make sure that on judgement day, you can stand with as few stains on it as possible.
Hugs, hon, we are all travelers in this rough road called life. If we are not helping one another, shame on us. That's why we are all here. :)
2007-07-12 03:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this and meditate:
For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. (But if the husband or wife who isn’t a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.) You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you. - 1 Corinthians 7:14-16.
It does not encourage divorce but it may permit you to live apart from the abuse but the marriage still holds. Just my opinion though.
2007-07-12 02:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by wind m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not that I know of, but there are laws! It's 2007 baby, you don't need to put up with that! Love yourself! Save some money, pack up and leave. Send him the divorce papers in the mail with your lawyers return address! :)
2007-07-12 02:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer k 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, scriptures relative to marriage only apply to christians. If either one of you, or both of you are not christians, you are free to divorce him. Furthermore, a man who is abusive is probably not a true christian, so you would be wise to divorce this man.
2007-07-12 02:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Adultery and them leaving you are the only reasons given. I hope you find a safe place.
2007-07-12 02:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares, there's a law that says you can. The bible can't give you all the answers for a modern day life.
2007-07-12 02:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl W 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I'm with Jen.....LAWS.
The bible is only a MANS interpretation of God's words....do we really know if that man wasn't a wife beating lunatic?
2007-07-12 02:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋