staring aggressively at you? how as a 30 year old male should you deal with this? i already find life tough, i have borderline personality disorder
2007-07-12 02:31:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Perhaps if you took the trouble to let the chap come up and speak to you - probably for an entirely innocent reason - not all men are likely to want to screw you - then you might, repeat might JUST make a friend out of him. That way you can stop moaning that everybody owes you a living and nobody likes you - you could suddenly have a new friend, and that could do you the world of good.
Look at it this way - HE might be in similar circumstances to you friendship-wise. He might have just moved into your area, he might just be on the lookout to make some friends - AND YOU WON'T EVEN GIVE THE POOR MAN A CHANCE WITHOUT WANTING TO "TAKE ACTION" which, in your case means you throwing one of your silly hissy-fits and then wanting to punch him.
And all because he looked at you. Think on.
2007-07-13 04:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Norton G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess that you feel uncomfortable when people look at you and automatically think that if they are looking, it's not for a good reason and something must be wrong or bad about you. Take a deep breath next time and ask yourself why it is you perceive their state as threatening? Chances are it could be over sensitivity on your part and they may not be looking at you at all. Some people stare while they are in deep thought but they are not actually seeing anything.
Also, you don' t say where or what you are doing when you think other males are staring at you - are you in the spot light, perhaps? If you really think that they have an issue with you and you would like to resolve it, I would just approach them and smile and ask "is there something I can help you with?"
Think positive and lift yourself up - you have a lot to offer and should always try to encourage yourself and others.
2007-07-12 10:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you watching me...how can I best help you?
I asked a question about the staring thing. One answer was that young men like to stare aggressively because they think it is cool.
You left out some of the variables for the situation - there are good ways to handle the staring thing, in different situations.
2007-07-12 11:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there Coop:
Well, that has happened to me before (except it was woman to woman) and I always felt really uncomfortable and then one day I just smiled, wave and said have a great day!
No more uncomfortable feeling, no feelings hurt either way, it is just a win win situation. Plus bonus...as you walk away you can smirk and feel pleased with yourself as you were able to handle it with positive outcome which gives yopu a positive feeling.
Be safe and be well my friend
j xxx
2007-07-12 21:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is come up to him and slap his nuts with your backhand. Whatever you do, don't allow yourself to be the victim of a bullish situation. Sometimes, you may get knocked down, but you must stand up for yourself (unless this guys is know to carry weapons). Why is he staring at you anyway? Did you sleep with his mom and his sister at the same time? If not, tell him that you did anyway.
2007-07-12 09:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ilya S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Meet the stare. Do not look away or look down it shows weakness. And address the individual with What's up? And they will say what's up? Then they know you are not afraid. Show fear and they will prey on you. Always be prepared and don't underestimate them. If blows are exchanged yours are every bit as good as his are and you should exchange as many as he does. Be careful he may have a weapon. And hopefully after a few punches he will run away to find an easier mark.
2007-07-12 09:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by thomas m 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It really depends on whether this is an ongoing occurrence or just happened one time. If it is an ongoing thing, I think I'd confront him and ask him why he's doing that. If it was just a one time occurrence, I'd ignore it. Now you know how we women feel when men stare 'aggressively' at us! It can really make one feel uncomfortable!! Good luck!
2007-07-12 09:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm gonna tell you something that I learned a long time ago. You give yourself too much importance in other people's lives. No one cares that much about you to spend so much time trying to make your life miserable. They have more important things to do. The people who do care about you are the ones who love you.
2007-07-12 14:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by SapphireSeaFairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if people are looking at you? People watching is fun. You can get alot of insight about yourself and life by watching people...I think you should spend more time figuring out why you get upset about these types of things and less time freaking out about it.
2007-07-20 03:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tiphanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel flattered!!!
i know i do.. when a person of the same sex stares, it should be a compliment.
as for girls, we're always hating on eachother, comparing who has bigger and better.
same as guys.
but when the same sex stares, its like, your good!
life has a lot to offer us, and when someone is looking, even if its the same sex, except it with a smile.
v
2007-07-19 04:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by VERONICA H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋