Actually, I’m not as well as i looked like. People always think that I’m perfect, my parents always trust me, my siblings never thought something wrong about me. But actually, I’m very damn people never think about anyone else, smug, and a cheater. People always think that I’m a very trustworthy one, but I’m not. Everyone also always think that I’m normal, but actually, I’m a gay. And the worst, I have no people to share to. I never could trust other people to share my secrets. So in this Yahoo! Answers I just want to share to everyone. And somehow, I want to change. I want to be a better people. Like anyone else. I want to be a normal one. I want to be a human that have less negative thinking. I want to share to other people a lot than before. So that everything bad in my heart will go away. Actually I want to forget about these problems, but somehow i can’t, because i never share this to everyone!!!
2007-07-12 02:09:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Right now, I just want everyone encourage me, so that I have my spirit to go on, and stop thinking about the past, but go straight to the future, please, everyone encourage me!! Give me advice...
2007-07-12 02:11:41 · update #1
If you pretend to be someone your not you will continue to feel like a bad person. Who you are is not something to be ashamed of. It's difficult to admit being gay to friends and family because of the way society and religions view it but we have come a long way. The more people that "come out of the closet" get us even closer. When we can finally accept that sexuality is not a choice we will finally accept homosexuality. Don't be afraid to stand up for who you are! You might be surprised by peoples reactions. You may even persuade some others to "come out". Good luck. You also have some resources if you look up your local PFLAG or Pride center.
2007-07-20 01:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by themeenk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm... a closet person. Well I think you got sureself caught by lying and telling the truth. Still you have to consider that saying the truth is the way to freedom. Easier said than done but then the truth always sets us free. Being gay, is not a thing of great issue nowadays.. the problem starts when you refused to take yourself as such. For the moment that you'll finally accept the fact, you're desire to show the world will put all your doubts and fears aside. The hard part is when are you going to accept it? I am truly impressed of how you are able to hide it from the people around you. But isn't it more wonderful to be able to come out and hide nothing? think about it.
2007-07-20 00:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I'll be praying for your happiness and transformation into a better person and hoping that you have the courage and confidence to share yourself with others. No one is perfect, but we all must take steps to improve ourselves. You are a beautiful person, gay or heterosexual, and you have alot to share with the world. Don't be so hellbent on learning how to trust people. Most people can't be trusted, and when something in your heart is telling you certain people can't be trusted, that instinct is usually right.
2007-07-12 09:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to find someone in your life with whom you can share your despair. You may be feeling the negative things about yourself because you are not being honest with yourself or the people around you. Until you are honest with yourself, you'll never feel good about yourself. If you are gay, then you are gay. It's not abnormal; it just is. Once you can come to terms with that and accept yourself for who you are, some of your other problems will take care of themselves. Good luck to you. Find someone in your life, even if it's a counselor, who you can trust.
2007-07-12 09:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by leighbe72 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
fine, get to a psychologist and get your "way of thinking about you" problem solved. It's bad to tell people your deepest inner feelings on this because once they type you as being bad (I don't think you are) then you can never change their opinion about you. It's really a good thing that they think so well of you...and now it's your responsibility to live up to that. Have the psychologist show you how.
2007-07-19 12:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, did u say that no one knows ur gay? I think u should say it loud and proud, I think thats whats making ur life negative! Dont be afraid. AND a wise word for u, DONT ever ignore ur problems, confront them and 'fix' them. If u dont, they'll come back. See a professional such as a counsellar, or a psychologist if its really bothering u. Take care!
2007-07-12 09:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Saz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is called "subjective validation" or Barnum Effect.
try to find the effective element in your repertoire.you have a considerable amount of unused capacity that may turn in your advantage.
2007-07-16 01:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by jammal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did changed my self a lot...if u want u will make it.
I really admire u so much, may God bless u and give u fortitude.
2007-07-13 04:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't be ashamed.... we all have secrets. Be proud of who you are!!!! Shout it at the roof tops!!! Keep a smile on your face and make yourself happy!
2007-07-19 17:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, how poor...
2007-07-12 09:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋