My next door neighbor has been going through a rough time over the past couple of months. His marriage is on the rocks and he is considering getting a divorce. He and my husband are best friends, they hang out all the time. My husband has been trying to cheer him up for the past few weeks but nothing seems to be working.
Last night my husband told me that he is going to hook our 16 year old daughter up with our 45 year old neighbor. He says that Jimco, our neighbor, has always been attracted to our daughter and dating her would be a really good boost for his morale.
He says that he knows that Jimco would never harm our daughter or take advantage of her in anyway.
He really wants our neighbor to be happy and feels that this is the best way of doing it. Is he right? Should my husband really hook our daughter up with our 45 year old neighbor?
2007-07-12 00:04:06 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Surely you have made this story up? No one in their right mind would put their 16 year old daughter out there for a 45 year old neighbor. If this is true, your husband is nuts, and I think you might be too to ask such a thing. If my husband would have suggested this about our daughter I would have clobbered him.
2007-07-12 00:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know darned well what a 45-year-old man wants with a 16-year-old girl. What if she were 12? When did he start being attracted to her? Would you still be asking if she were only 12?
You and your daughter need to leave your husband or something and she needs to leave YOU and your husband coz you're both bad parents. Not to mention, the guy should come up with his own ways of cheering up when he's getting a divorce. If that involves cheating, it shouldn't involve your daughter. That's for sure....
2007-07-12 00:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by all_stardusty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is SICK!!I cannot believe that u are so ok with this,you are her mom and should have said no in the first place!How da f*ck will a 16 years old beautiful young girl,YOUR daughter,be with a 45 years old man???As the mother of that girl how do u feel?You guys are not parents,you don't care about your daughter at all!!Ppl like u should be punished for making sick decisions like these!
2007-07-12 00:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your neighbor's emotions are normal part of process for a person who is going through a divorce and I don't think your husband is being a great friend by trying to just put a band aid on his friend's pain and loss that he feels right now. What "Jimco" needs is a friend who is there for him and who is willing to listen while "Jimco" vents. Last thing "Jimco" needs is a little girl (which is illegal anyway if sex gets involved) to make him happy because "Jimco" needs to reflect on what went wrong with his marriage and he also needs to find himself and learn to live alone...and then move on but he shouldn't be moving on with your 16-year-old daughter!
2007-07-12 00:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NOOOOO~!!!!! it is wrong in my opinion that 16 and 45 year olds go out and possibly more.... people arent always truthful!!!! i understand that hes in a hard place but there are other places for you to meet people (with women his age). he should kno that he can go other places... and if it were me being hooked up with somone in his 40s i would be scared to death and embarrased!!! and if i were the mother (which sounds like its you posting the ?) i would feel the same and i would never let that happen to my daughter.
2007-07-12 01:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Justme=] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that when Child Protective Services comes to your house to investigate, you will be held accountable as well. Any parent that is aware of something like this going on and does nothing to protect their child, is at fault just the same as the other parent.
How could you even ask if this is alright?
NO THIS IS NOT OK!! Tell your husband you will report him to the police if he tries to do it.
There is obviously something VERY WRONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND if he is so concerned about your neighbors emotional needs and not his own daughters.
He needs help!!
2007-07-12 00:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jerribear76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statutory rape for Jimco and hubby needs help. I dont know a man that would want his teen daughter to have sex let alone hook her up with an old man. Better yet move out with the daughter before he does something worse than suggest .
2007-07-12 00:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shocked that you would even have to ask this. It astounds me that your husband would put his neighbour's welfare before his own daughter's.
I would be very, very worried about a 45 year old man openly admitting he is attracted to a 16 year old. This man sounds like a pervert and a paedophile. If your husband is sure that this man will not harm your daughter, he is obviously deluded and needs help.
And what makes you think it's your decision who your daughter dates anyway? It's still not up to you! It is her decision, not yours, not your husbands. To attempt to set her up with someone old enough to be her father is very irresponsible.
2007-07-12 00:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Neon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... thats gross. And illegal too. When it comes to those issues... do whats best for your daughter. A middle aged man is NOT best for her. I'm 21, and I wouldn't date a 16 year old. I wouldn't expect her parents to allow her to date me. I'm surprised you even had the nerve to ask this kind of question. Let your child-predetor-to-be neighbor worry about his own life, and protect your own daughter first. Jimco can find another girl.
2007-07-12 00:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a sick joke- right? Hey, Mom/sicko, don't you have anything better to do than make up this disgusting scenerio? If you really were serious, your husband and friend would be put in jail. Call the child abuse hotline and get real with your questons on this site- you need help.
2007-07-12 00:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by sunflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋