I was with my ex for two years. We lived pretty much together but had two separate places. I then dumped her because she cheated on me. She said she cheated on me because we never actually lived together and because I didn't marry her within the two years.
I personally think it is a poor excuse to say you cheated on someone because they wouldn't marry you. She say's she wouldn't cheat if she's married. What do you think? I think she's full of sh!t. Marriage is much tougher than being boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you think?
2007-07-11 23:28:59 · 12 answers · asked by JC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There were reasons why I didn't ask her to marry right away. She would tell me one day she wants to travel the world and then the next day she would say she wants to have kids.
2007-07-11 23:47:36 · update #1
To the person that said if I had to go away for my job. Yes, thats how she was, if I wouldn't do it with her she would find someone else to do it with her. And she always told me I was the man of her dreams. What a crock
2007-07-11 23:52:53 · update #2
I say that you are right on target and are a very smart guy. If she cheats to deal with her problems, then she'll cheat again and again because marriage is full of problems. Thank God there was something inside of you that said, don't marry her! Good luck on your new single life. There's no doubt that you will find someone wonderful who will not have the capacity to do this to you.
2007-07-12 01:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she's your ex-, so why are you bothering to ask?
You say you were living "pretty much together" yet had separate places. Whichever one of you chose to maintain a separate dwelling seems to have a problem with commitment.
Cheating because you "didn't marry her" is a BS excuse. That's just rationalisation (which is the act of trying to make a logical explanation out of inappropriate action). Marriage is really just a piece of paper, that alone doesn't change who we are or what we do.
However, if you're the one with a problem about commitment, don't expect any girl to stay around for too long. Their time-clocks are always ticking.
2007-07-12 00:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ian S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made her feel insecure. That is probably why she cheated. Only problem is that she may do it again if times get hard in a marriage. Just give it some more time before you make a decision to marry her. She needs to learn what commitment means. If she wanted to see someone else, out of respect for you, she should have just broken up with you rather that cheat behind your back.
2007-07-11 23:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she made an excuse just like a man would. Look you were dating not married, not trying to justify her cheating but dating is all about finding the person you want to spend your life with and if that person doesn't fit your life eventually you move on. My guess is she was too scared to tell the truth so she cheated to get out of the relationship.
2007-07-11 23:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is full of **** two years is not very long i was in relationship for 6 years still wouldnt get married,getting married is a big thing but a commitment can still be made without getting married living together and stuff like promise rings,and two years should be the best time in a relationship,ands honestly if you havent felt like proposing anyways in those two years she wasnt the one for you,and now that she cheated on you confirms that,she would use any excuse to defend her actions move on and forget about her,dont look back
2007-07-11 23:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is exciting which you have have been given lumped all women who've extra marital affairs mutually as though there is in elementary terms one available reason, whilst in actuality there are a number of. some examples are: Being unhappy not being heard via their husband Having a husband who's already cheating Being upset with with their existence Feeling ignored/ invisible of their marriage not being enjoyed - so desiring to be enjoyed Feeling pointless lost a verify ought to sense attractive and suitable back (as a results of fact relatives do not observe/ care) Depressed Afraid as a results of fact they are in a position to and a hundred or thousand others
2016-10-20 23:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by hyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all depends on what level of commitment you had in your relationship. Was it agreed upon that you were exclusive?
Were you engaged?
Were you promising marriage but never delivered?
She shouldn't have cheated - she should have told you that you were not giving her what she wanted and that she wanted to play the field to see if she could find someone that would.
You are not the only fish in the sea buddy. And if you had wanted to keep her you should have done something about it.
2007-07-11 23:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else...what if you had to go away for a few months for your job while married to her? Would she say then, "I would not have cheated if you had stayed here"?. She is full of it.
2007-07-11 23:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both have equal to be blamed. Choosing a mate is to marry soon. Waiting should have some reasons or logic behind that should be commonly acceptable by both of you.
2007-07-11 23:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi theresweetheart she is using you like a doormat there to be walked all over .......trust me on this she cheats on you before you get married you will need a lawyer verysoon after you married her as she will cheat on you again ,find someone that has higher standards than a slugs bum ........good luck and take care xx
2007-07-11 23:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋