How does it change your relationship with her? I'm 29 and he's 31...We have made out several times. (NO s e x) and before we ever messed around we would do all kinds of things together...now everytime we get together all he thinks about is fooling around. Can things ever be how it used to be? Or is messing around always going to be his main priority from now on?
At the time we did this I had left my husband and he had been separated with his wife also...but now he is back with his wife and I refuse to "play" anymore. Is our platonic friendship doomed?
2007-07-11 21:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
In a word...yes. Once you remove the "innocence" from it, the friendship side is almost impossible to re-create. But it can be done, it just takes a lot of self control. And it only takes one brief lapse to ruin it again....
2007-07-11 21:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for refusing to "play" any more, now that he has gone back to his wife. But I don't think you told us everything here. He always was hot for you, even when you were "just" best friends, and you had some feelings for him too, right? Thought him your soul mate?
But he has made his choice now, and he chose his wife, no matter how rotten he tells you his marriage is. Better forget him, hard though that seems, and look for love and friendship elsewhere. I wish you all the best.
2007-07-12 17:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Husker41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Innocent freindship is over. If you continue seeing him it will cause problems between him and his wife. She will see you as a threat. Why is he back with her, if he still wants to fool around with you? Would'nt that be the kind of guy that you would dump if you were on the other end? Is it ok as long as your not the one getting cheated on ?
2007-07-11 23:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your platonic freindship isn't doomed,, it's over........this has happened to me many times. once sex enters the scene, or, in your case, almost sex, it ruins any kind of platonic friendship.. i think it is because you went from being friends, to being intimate friends. intimacy changes a relationship in a way i don't think i can put into words.
on the other hand, if you are looking for a new platonic friend, allow me to introduce myself..the name is ,,,,,,,,,
joe t.
2007-07-12 01:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by missin NJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It's a painful truth. Even if he had not gone back to his wife, it's over. Fooling around is part of sex, and sex changes everything, period.
2007-07-11 21:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can't go back to where you were, sorry go find a new pal. If you don't you will ruin his relationship with his wife. Every time he has a problem with her he will run to you, instead of working it out. Instead of hurting him only you would be hurting his wife. let him go.
2007-07-11 21:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah im afraid its doomed.You cant just turn it on and off.And I think it would be too tempting for you too, if you are honest with yourself, its only natural.
(I stand corrected about my last "i know how men are" answer)
2007-07-12 11:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by maze_wanderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not make a fool out of yourself. Don't make decisions that you will regret later...these are all i can say, girl!..â¥
2007-07-11 21:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to ignore her. She only wants attention because as a friend, she virtually unattainable if she only wants him to be her friend. Cold...
2007-07-11 21:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want your frienship to go back to how it was you really need to lay your cards on the table and tell him how things are going to be if he wants to remain friends
2007-07-11 21:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by massdebater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋