2007-07-11 20:08:17 · 14 answers · asked by jaesuk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
NEED ?? to continue a friendship? I wouldn't consider that a friendly action...You don't need to be anybody's friend if you don't want...friendship has to be earned.
2007-07-11 21:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't continue a relationship if the person is demeaning me even in a playful manner in my opinion.
If its making you feel bad about yourself in anyway, then I suggest you don't continue the relationship. You don't need to continue being with someone who makes you feel bad.
Real friends don't demean their friends, even in a playful way.
Edit: I had a friend who was always demeaning me and he made me feel like a bad person and an inferior weak creature. I only stayed with this person because I thought he was a good friend. I finally declared the end of the friendship almost a year ago. I went through months of depression and trauma but now that I don't even talk to this person anymore I relised how much that person was damaging me.
I'm now a much happier, more confident person since I ended the friendship. My self-esteem is right up now. Its soared.
2007-07-12 04:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that is in your hands alone. Only you can choose your friends and if you find their behavior is that upsetting to you then cease your friendship with those people. There are lots of times when people make fun of others because they are either ignorant or uneducated, or perhaps it's a self defense mechanism. I have some friends that can and do sometimes use demeaning language, but I just choose to ignore it, because at the end of the day they are not bad people and have been good friends. Unfortunately few things in life are perfect and I guess that other people fall into that category as well. If you don't like something then you need to speak out. Sometimes people don't know how you feel because perhaps your not saying anything and they might get the impression it's okay. Good luck
2007-07-12 03:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Paul D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that people NEED to continue relationships like that at all. I have a lot fewer friends now for that very reason.
There's a big difference, though, between the good-natured ribbing that sometimes goes on between good friends, and just out-and-out disrespect. And there's a way you can tell which is which.
When your "friend" starts doing a number on you, give it back to him/her as good as you get it.
A true friend can laugh it off and you both can move on to other things. On the other hand, if the person dishing it out can't take it, and becomes hostile, defensive and even more abusive, one of you needs to take a hike.
2007-07-12 05:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are intentionally demeaning someone then they are not a good person to to have as a friend.
But make sure they are doing so on purpose before breaking away from a friendship.
If they are a friend and or unintentionally demeaning then just polit tell tell them that what they are doing is demeaning and please stop. If they refuse to be more considerate then we are back to them not being a good friend to have so end it there.
2007-07-12 04:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are free to choose who they will be friends with. I personally don't feel friendly toward people who do not treat me with respect. "Playfully" demeaning someone is a deceitful behavior; the intent to hurt is there and is felt.
If you have a 'friend' who treats you like this, you might give them the benefit of the doubt by telling them (ONCE) that it is hurtful. But if they do it again, I'd just cross 'em off the friendship list and spend my time with real friends.
2007-07-12 03:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this sounds like you're bothered by this so it's safe to say that you feel victimized in some way. If you're hurt, you have to let this person know that it's not right, if they continue, stop the friendship. You don't need friends that make you feel bad. People like that are called "enemies" not people that you should be able to rely on and count on to be there for you. Friends shouldn't tear you down and make you feel bad. That's what family is for.
2007-07-12 07:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Randy C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends never demean you. If at all, they might make fun of you, but only on your face, never behind your back. If you think your friends are demeaning you unnecessarily, or doing it to be one up on you, then yes. You need better people as friends.
2007-07-12 03:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend who was always demeaning me, but i never did anything about it simply because we were friends, despite the trauma i went through. over the last year or two we've drifted apart and i've become a lot more confident in my self and my self esteem has had quite a boost.
2007-07-12 04:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by meeee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a very good relationship with my brother, but he is always trying to demean me by tapping me on the forehead cause I'm not strong enough to stop him. I love him anyways. : )
2007-07-12 03:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word which needs attention here is "need", Kevin. That's the one you should concentrate on. Do you "need" this? Is there a need to continue? Sort that one out, and you have the beginnings of a plan for your future.
2007-07-12 03:13:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋