I have accidently found out that my hubby had been smsing a lady with sweet honey words. I saw purchase receipt of lady hangbags and shoes which I did not receive. I ask him but he denied it and we had a very bad argument. He claimed he didn't cheat on me and that women is only a normal friend. Since then he had not contacted this women. But I later found out that he has been contacting another lady for almost 2 years and had also visited her in her country without my knowledge. When she comes here, he keep her company. Till now, I know there is nothing between him and this lady. Problem is, this lady does not knows that he is married. What do you think will happen in future. Why doesn't my hubby tell her that he is married if there is nothing between them. Will this lady fall for him as they have been exchanging mails quite often. Contents usually expressing concerned for each other. Nothing mention about love. Is there true friendship between opposit sex?
2007-07-11 19:20:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there. I can empathise how you must be feeling, especially having to find out that your husband is actually in contact with a lady whom doesnt know he is marrie. Most of the time, men would be really defensive when women confront them about any infidelity unless they are caught red-handed, and the tricky part is how do you approach this issue with him. Ask yourself if his actions is really hurting you and causing a strain in your belief in this marriage. If it is, and you feel that his 'friendship' with this lady is causing a drift between your, you need to voice it out to him. Approach the issue by telling him that as much as you trust that there is nothing going on between him and the lady, you also need to know how he feels about his 'friendship' with this lady. Is he attracted to her physically or is he seeking her 'company' through messages to feel the void in the relationship which he shares with you. Or perhaps, he may be totally ignorant that his current actions are putting a strain on you. It is important to know what you feel about his actions because only then you will be able to take the next step. Of course, confrontation should be avoided and you should choose to only to speak to him when you are calm and in peace with yourself, because he can get defensive and the whole situation could result in a fight instead.
Hopefully by explaining to him how hurt you are by his actions, he will be able to consider putting a stop to this well.
2007-07-12 02:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he have nothing to hide, why not? Since I found out that my husband cheated on me, I have total access to his email. If this is only a female friend, go ahead and challenge him to take you next time he go and see her so he can introduce u 2 to each other. If he refuse, then there must be something more between them...
2007-07-12 02:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are true friendship between opposite sex, but it's seem that your husband is cheating. There are definitely something more than friend between two of them.
2007-07-12 02:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tan D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True friendship, of the same or opposite sexes, requires full disclosure involving their relationship and the absence of deception!
2007-07-12 03:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by runninfool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the computer is mutually owned by both of you, put a key logger program on it (records everything that is typed) You can legally do that. Go ahead and find out the truth, you owe it to yourself. I always say, if it happens once it will happen again.
2007-07-12 03:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand how he has gotten away with this behavior for so many years! Are you a person or a doormat? Most normal women don't put up with bad behavior from their husbands. They leave them and move on. So, that's my advice to you!!
2007-07-12 02:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by gma 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is true friendship between opposite sex when truth is involved.
Obviously your husband is lying to her and to you.
2007-07-12 02:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although he may not be having sexual intercourse with this woman, this is obviously an inappropriate behavior.
He needs to gorw up, or you should kick him out.
Good luck, dear!
2007-07-12 03:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by mjh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reading other ppls mail is a federal offense!
2007-07-12 02:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋