Have you ever been devastated with love?

Question

I have been in love with this very sweet Iranian girl for 1 year and recently something just changed in her. She is no more interested in talking about love and life, rather wants to argue with me on our differences. I don't know what to do with her. She avoided me when I asked her via messenger, "why are you so angry with me?", She IMed me saying that she's gotta little homework to do...

As for what started it all was the time when we discovered the highly differing views on our religion. Both of us are shia muslims, but she is a little too extreme and although I am as religious as her, I told her that she buys too much into local media.And that fired her up into fury. She started with a big angered speech saying about things I already know, but I understood she was unable to accept my pro-sunni Islamic beliefs.

This started a round of arguments between her and me. I even apologized yesterday - but she's not ready to forgive me. I am almost certain she will dump me.HELP ME!!! :(

I dont know what to do.. I have been almost muted at college and people are noticing that very much. I am unable to be the happy cheerful popular kid I was meant to be. I dont think I will ever love again...God Help me...

I think I will become a dumb kid i was perhaps meant to be...People used to love me... no one will ever again

Answer 1

Unfortunattly for some people differences in Sects or Religion can cause major conflicts. Which is sad, because if we think about it, Prophet Muhammad nor Iman Ali wanted Muslims fighting or turning into Sects. As you know because you are Shia, Iman Ali refused to fight for his Position as Caliph because he did not want to see Muslims fighting, That is not what Islam is about. That is not what the Prophet taught us.
The prophet explained that any person who believes in One God is a Muslim and he is our brother or sister through faith.
In the Quran there is no mention of Sunni or Shiia. Only that of Muslim.

The most important key to any good relationship is the key of communication. I can assure you that no relationship will hold fast or succede if neither party can communicate with one another.
If your girlfriend wants to understand More about the True Islam maybe she should read the Quran some more...Without what her parents are telling her or anyone else. The main problem with different views in Religion is from our leaders and parents. Not from what was written in the Holy Quran. If people followed only the Quran there would NOT be any Sunni Muslims or Shia Muslims, Only Muslims. and that is what we as Muslims need to understand.

In a time like this, I would say to be honest, straight forward, keep your faith in God and Know that all things happen for a good reason! God Loves us all and wants the best for us...If it shall be it shall be, If not then God has something better planned for you.

BTW. Please don't feel sorry for yourself, Be strong and Have faith. All things happen for a reason...Just remember that....

Answer 2

Hi there. I would just like to say i'm a sunni muslim, and i know that shia's and sunni's have differences, but that shouldn't get in the way of any relationship. As for this girl, I don't know if she's taking your relationship seriously or not, she may be angry at something else but is taking out on you in that form, and maybe she doesn't even mean it. I'd say give her some time to think about, let her cool down, but stay by her side and remind that you want to work things out and will always be there for her. Try not to argue with her, and if she yells at you, kindly inform her that you didn't intentionally want to hurt her. I hope all goes well!

Answer 3

Ok even tho im strongly angaist the muslim religion im going to help out....ok religion can be a big part of who you are. She was probably raised to belive very specific things and then a not so religious person tells her u know thats not always right..the person becomes angered because its like you are "going againt her beliefs" even tho thats NOT what u are doing. You shoulde let her know what EVERYONE is different and you guys were obviously raised differently and tell her that u repsect everything she belives even tho if maybe not what YOU belive and that this shouldnt matter because you felt in love with HER not what she belives in.....ppl can be very touchy about this jsut make sure u let her know what u complitely accept that she belives diff things than you.....anywayss hope this helpss

Answer 4

ok now this is a sect problem anyway I ll try to answer your question first of all tell make her understand that shia sunni or other wise all are muslims having the same khalima praying to the one and only allah read the quran practice the five principals of Islam tell her that it is also said that one should not argue on religeion but go to the correct source for answers that is the qoran ok anyway make her understand that there cant be different views in islam if one follows the qoran that is gods words insha allah hope you get over this problem and you two get to gether I ll personaly pray to that may allmighty allah guide you both in the correct path to jannah feeamillah my friend

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Religion is definitely a big problem in relationships, unless one gives up.
Maybe she's not the one for you..
So try to just concentrate more on your studies, get involved in physical activities. I know forgetting is the hard to do..even I, I am at the stage of forgetting right now..I think we just have to accept that things are not really meant to happen, although it hurts..maybe God just wants you to be strong.

Answer 7

I think that you have to change you behavior. She is now tired of talking one year about love and life. talk to each other and try to find out what she really wants. If you reached to an agreement it is very good but if it didn't work out I think it is much better to stop the friendship.

Answer 8

Be more respectful of any others opinions and not so judgemental of their views , especially religious beliefs....keep such conversation at a curiousity level, more than arguemental level and you will gain a womens respect for being a good listener as well as communicator.

Answer 9

Religious differences, in some cultures, can be a huge problem in a relationship. It may be better to find someone that believes more like you, than to try to change her beliefs.

Answer 10

love is not the problem it is the lack of love or maybe the love of a belief over a loving person. she has to learn to value life, to value people, to value love over rules and beliefs and other things. some people i know have such a closed mind to anything else than their rules it makes me sick. religion and a closed mind will destroy the world but love and a careful open mind will save the world.