Are they done to avoid pain?
Workaholic? Drinking? Smoking? Food? Watching TV? Video games? Shopaholic? Sex? Drugs? spending hours on the Internet? or something else?
2007-07-11 18:41:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex is a chain smoking alcoholic/addict. He is narcissistic with borderline personality disorder. He is also a compulsive liar. I am so not exagerrating here. I knew all of this when I married him, but I thought I was there answer to all his problems. I thought I could control all of the above...I was wrong. Addictions are progressive and if the problem is not addressed and treatment is on going, they will always surface and get worse. So, YES, addictions have a horrible affect on marriage/relationships. It's such a shame. I was so in love with him, but in hindsight, I question how much I really knew him, if at all.
2007-07-11 18:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact: You KNEW this when you married him so in his mind you're ok with it no matter how controlled or out of control he is. You thought a little cross-dressing was fine but to him it was just a way of taking it further with your blessing. He's gone overboard now and as the saying goes you can't put the "crap" back in the horse. He's not going back to square one so you have to decide what is best for you. He will not change because he does not want to. I don't know if I would call this a marriage, I don't know what this is. I know it's not "normal". The fact that your love life is affected would be the end for me. Kinky is one thing, this is so over the top I don't know what it's called. Good luck.
2016-03-15 02:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man who has many addictions, he plays poker on the computer constantly, he gambles constantly, he smokes pot constantly,he even eats unhealthily sometimes like an addiction. sometimes I wish he would be addicted to work. He complains constantly about having to work for a living. Anyways the relationship has become intolerable it is dfisgusting and I think I want out.It has had a bad effect on my relationship he can not balance anything and it has caused alot of hurt. Oh ya he is also credit card happy, we have refinaced our home many times paid off his credit cards and he still charges. He takes cash advances to go to the casino, then constantly complains about not being able to pay the bills, he does it to himself. I am nothing like him, I am the total opposite. Thank God.
2007-07-16 16:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jeannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I am into my addiction, my only relationship is with whatever I'm using at the time. There is no room for anything or anyone else
Peace
2007-07-17 13:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex, It attracted the wrong spouse. And no it does not affect any of my other relationships no one else knows. And all of his b**tching, is making me lose interest. I think that soon I will be cured. I suppose that it was caused, by many factors as for avoiding pain, it didn't help, it has made things worse.
2007-07-11 18:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many, they do not affect my relationship as I have had many hours of counseling and different programs help me to work through them and know what to do to prevent my life becoming devastated by them
2007-07-16 22:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex addict for sure. And nope..I do it to get my freak on.
2007-07-11 18:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋