Let's say its a single parent home with only the dad in the picture. Would you find it selfish if the girl refused to drop out of school and help with the kids even if the dad was willing to let her get a GED? Women are usually better at handling children and if the mom isn't in the picture it would seem like the older sister would be the best choice for this.
2007-07-11 17:38:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
not talking for all women but i sure would drop out of school to help take care of my siblings if i had to. i actually quit highschool to help take care of my grandmother.
2007-07-11 17:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by sandy 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
To be honest you cannot convince him to stay in school. But you can give him your input and he has to make his own decisions. But when you talk to him make sure you let him know that it's for him and not you. You want to help him, but if you don't do it right it comes off as something "you want" instead of something "he wants" I would start by asking what he wants out of life. Find out his interests or dreams. Tell him you would like to help him get that dream or help him pursue his interest. From there you can mention how high school can help him get there. Don't yell or nag or scream at him. Don't compare him to you or anyone else. Don't tell him he's doing anything wrong. Any of those things will shut him down and cause him to put up a barrier and shut you out. Remember everyone is different and school is NOT for everyone. School is only one way to do things and life is a very big broad experience where almost anything is possible. You also mentioned that school is very hard for him and that he has dyslexia. It's not just because he is lazy but school is literally not ok for him. The last thing is life is not about a job. Many people are self employed, business owners, entrepreneurs. Don't assume that he wants a job and has to have one. Many creative thinkers and artists are destroyed because of non supportive parents when they were younger. Instead of supporting them in something they're interested in and passionate about, they are forced to go to school, do what everyone is doing, and get a normal job. Sorry for making this long but I hope it might help even a little bit. Hope you and your brother work things out.
2016-05-20 03:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on the unique situation. There are many circumstances where single parents take care of their children without any additional assistance, be it from the eldest child or an outsider. This includes single dads. Suppose the single parent was ill with cancer or some other serious disease and was unable to care for the children. If there was no other family member in the area, or could fly in to help, no friends of the single parent could help out as often as they'd be needed, and outside assistance from VNA, a nanny or some other service wasn't financially possible, then I would find it a reasonable choice, and a very generous sacrifice for a child to drop out of school to help the single parent out. It does not have to be a girl. Boys are just as capable of helping out as girls are.
2007-07-12 04:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has the right to education. Why deprive a young female of her education if in the past she didn't even have that choice? I say if she wants to study, then let her study. Theres nothing wrong with a male taking care of children. Yes, females are better at it, but a male can learn. And the young lady would still be home when she's not at school, she will have to do her studies, but she could still help from time to time when the farther needs it. I don't see anything wrong with a male having some household responsibilities
2007-07-12 05:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that would be best. Dad can hang in there for a year or two while she finishes high school. It's not forever. She is still technically a child under his care, whether mom is around or not.
What would she do if she quit school? If she's under 18, I don't believe she'll be able to get a full time job because of child labor laws. Plus, until she does get her GED, her options will be limited.
No no, she should finish school. Things might be tight while she does, but it's only temporary. When she's able to get a full time job, then she can help out financially, if she wants.
2007-07-11 17:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be selfish of the Dad to even suggest it. Everyone deserves a quality education- sorry but getting a GED doesn't quite count.
The parents had the children- it is their responsibility to raise them and take care of them. You don't mention how old the kids are- but there is such a thing as child care facilities. If the dad can't afford it he needs to rethink his priorities - perhaps move somewhere where the cost of living is less, etc.
Also- where is the extended family (grandparents, aunts, etc.)?
I would think that would be a more acceptable situation than asking a teenage girl to drop out of school, throw away her chances at acquiring the kind of education she needs to succeed in life, and that would quite possibly allow her to get away from the situation at home.
So my answer is- no it is not remotely acceptable for her to drop out.
2007-07-11 17:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by ewema 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is done all the time. Oprah has done specials on teens who take care of their families and still go to school.
These kids stepped up to the plate and do wonderful work with their siblings and perhaps a bedridden parent, and still go to school. NO WAY should a girl give up her education. This is NOT the days of Little House on the Prairies, I am sorry to say.
A GED is not even second best. If this child does such work with her family and so forth, she deserves better than that!
2007-07-11 20:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person maybe the girl has a good reason why she doesn't want to drop out of school and just get a GED maybe she wants to go to a university and needs to finish hs. I'm sure if the girl cuts back on any extra activitys she can go to school and help out around the house. I don't know about where you live but from where I'm from we have a program for hs students can go to school at night. Also she could look into going to school at home or online. There are millions of possiblities out there the sky is the limit! :)
2007-07-11 17:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie Sunshine 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe that any person should be expected to drop out of school to help raise younger children. Chances are, those children would also be in school so there shouldn't be any problems. Everyone deserves an education.
2007-07-11 18:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Panda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be a loving thing to do, but again, Sandstorm, you never know what the future holds. What if she needs to support herself later? It would be best if she finished high school.
Of course she should help her father take care of her brothers, though. She could become the woman in the house and take care of the domestic needs of the family. It would be hard, but many people do this if they need to.
2007-07-12 05:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very hard question to come rightout and give an opinion; there are so many other factors to deal with. In general it's a bad idea, the girl in question also needs a life of her own; she should never be denied that.
2007-07-12 10:33:41 · answer #11 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋