My son is 11 years old and we have had the sex talk so he knows all about sex. Yesterday he came to me and asked me what sex feels like well I knew how to answer all of his questions about sex but this one is difficult I can't think of any ways to explain it please someone help me.
2007-07-11 16:50:13 · 39 answers · asked by Fable of Flame 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him it feels like a thousand Christmas mornings, all at once
2007-07-11 16:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is like completing a track meet/soccer practice (or other sport he likes) and hopping into a nice warm bath to relax his muscles. You feel happy, full of energy/endorphines, successful, tired, and ready to rest.
Noting these are sensations he and his body has already had- No need to going exploring now. Due to the emotions that go along with this special act it is not recommended until he is much older. The emotional aspect is much more complex than the physical component. And it should not be ventured into until he has achieved the appropriate levels socially, emotionally, and physically. Then pick an age Mom, you like- as an example when he will achieve this 20, ?30?.
Good Luck
2007-07-11 18:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't answer it. He's 11. Why does he need to know that level of detail - the mechanics are fine at 11, but now you're talking about the sensuality part - can an 11 year old really get it? Just tell him it's a warm fuzzy feeling. Enough said.
2007-07-11 16:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now, I don't even know trycycle but he got 4 thumbs down. His comment about American pie was very funny. I don't care who you are. I gave him a thumbs up, because like the movie American Pie. The inexperienced boy asked his friends what it was like, and his friends said. Its like WARM APPLE PIE. Well the inexperienced boy went home and his mom had an apple pie on counter and the inexperienced boy ripped into it. Due, to his unexperience and wanting to get the feeling of what is may compare to. I thought, personally, the dad in American Pie, was very open with the son. Was not afraid to talk to him even tho the son felt uncomfortable. The dad in the movie made every notion not to make the son feel embarrassed of how he was feeling and did all he could do to get the point across without making the son feel ashamed. I think perhaps you need to approach your son in that manner. You don't like it but keep being open with your son. Bottom line? You know your son, how to talk to him, how you already have talked to him. He needs your honesty and not someone elses thoughts. Don't worry about telling him something wrong. Your main job is to remain open to him to talk to. Trust your own thoughts on this question. Obviously, your son does, or he would not of asked.
2007-07-11 17:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son the same age. It sounds like you have been very honest with him at an appropriate time. Explaining the feeling of sex is not appropriate at his age. Tell him that the feeling is different for everybody and that when the time comes for him at a mature state, he will know soon enough. Also explain to him that love and sex are two totally different things.
2007-07-11 16:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by nurse68 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him something like:
"It is a very intimate experience between two people who are in love and intend to spend the rest of their lives together. It is not really something I can explain to you, but when you find that person way later on in life, you will understand. As for now, you don't have to worry about things like that. Let's see what games on tonight."
Then go pray really hard it was just out of curiousity and not a situation he will encounter any day soon. :) Best of luck.
2007-07-11 16:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that sex is for adults, and when he's mature enough to have a relationship with someone he cares about, and not just sex, he'll be ready to approach that question again.
In the meantime, he can just enjoy being a kid without the responsibility of relationships!
2007-07-11 16:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dugger A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him sex is gratifying physically, emotionally, and physiologically.
All the good feelings of life rolled into one.
Like being tickled in such a way that you cant get enough.
Just some ideas. Good Luck!
2007-07-11 17:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by bobalo9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him "Sex is a feeling that only adults should feel, and when you are an adult you can know what it feels like" or something along those lines. I wouldn't explain to him what it feels like, personally i wouldnt even tell him it feels good, might encourage him and he is only 11 years old.
hope this helps
2007-07-11 16:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, When your married and are so in love with your wife, you will kiss her and God will make you hug and hold her and, you'll feel just what to do.Tell him that sex feels like itching a big mosquito bite..Then you fall fast asleep. Sex feels like someone that really loves you,is massaging everything that is hurting...so safe, so loved.
2007-07-11 17:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by loveyouoshinystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him he is too young and he can know later. That way you have more time to think of an answer and I think 11 is too young to know all the details about sex.
2007-07-11 16:53:24 · answer #11 · answered by Felecia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋