Me and my friend have been talking a lot lately, but since she's been pregnant her bf wont leave her the hell alone and it's driving me crazy cause he makes me feel so insecure cause he's so preppy and doesn't even deserve her, i feel like i'm just gonna tell her to leave my alone and never talk to me again but i care about her and i don't want to, am i going crazy or am i just too jealous? I kinda do like her but i know it's best if she stays with her bf cause he seems like he will take most responsibility, but my gut still tells me that he's gonna leave her around the time she has the baby.. and sadly my gut's not wrong often. I don't want her feeling back cause she likes to talk to me but i can't stand her bf cause he's got her under his spell where "he can't do anything wrong and nothing bad is ever his fault" and it makes me think she's just too easily controled.
2007-07-11 16:37:09 · 18 answers · asked by Blake K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
aww that sux. but ive been there. this one guy liked me when i had a bf. but my bf was being really mean to me. controling me, folowing me everywhere. i just thought that it was cuz he loved me. but wat the guys did was he sat down and talked to me. he put in wat the guy was doing and how i didnt deserve it. he told me when i didnt believe him to really look next time he says something to me. to see how he really treated me. i really didnt like wat i was blind about seeing b4. just talk to her. if u guys r friends she will trust u and ur idea of wat her bf is like.
2007-07-12 17:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by shortie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blaming an invisible dude in the sky for your problems. If he exists he's a douche and not worth worshiping anyhow. Don't listen to DeAnne's religious psychobabble copypasta. Now being a 22 year old mother of two doesn't help your situation any. You've never had a chance to live your life and that's really a shame and it's not at all out of line to be depressed. Now: Feelings of guilt are typical of depression. Don't worry about it. Fact: Your Zoloft isn't working. If it was, you wouldn't be making this post. You need: A: A higher dosage. B: A different/additional medication. Zoloft is a first line anti-depressant, it only works one one of three chemicals related to mood. It might not be right for you. You need to go to the doctors and get your meds tweaked before you do anything. If you are being treated by a Primary Care Physician/general doc instead of a psychiatrist, stop. Go see a psychiatrist.
2016-05-20 02:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first off I can tell that you care alot for this girl! And she is going through a tough time right now and so is her bf. They have a baby on the way. And if they are going to be together and raise this baby. I'm sorry to say it...but he will be around alot. The best thing that you can do is stay there for her. Be her friend when she needs you the most. But don't be jealous of her Boyfriend. Which I'm sure you are, I can tell just by the way your question is written. If you really care for her. You'll stay there as a friend. And then if your gut turns out to be right on this. That when the baby gets here that he's just going to turn tail and run. Be there to help her. No matter what she needs, just be there for her! Don't turn around and run away because you can't stand seeing her with him. And if she can confide in you. Then she really needs you exspecially now!!! Good luck with this you sound like a great guy!
2007-07-11 16:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could be SO important that you are willing to KILL her rather than just talk to TWO people about it...
IS THE BABY YOURS???
If it's ANYTHING other than that - then you should either keep it to yourself (if you want to let her know that you have feelings for her), or just be a man and say whatever it is in front of him!
It sounds like you have some MAJOR jealousy issues here - and acting this way will only make her HATE you!!!
2007-07-11 16:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy!
However, do give this guy a little chance! Because there are two main factors. It's possible (though I doubt it) that you are slightly stretching the truth because you would like to take his position.
The other thing to remember, is that a lot of guys become somewhat possessive while their girlfriend is pregnant...this is mainly because they feel the need to protect them.
However, do not ever disregard your conscience! If this guy does ditch out, be there to support your friend!! She'll really need it! Plus, this will show her that you care about her.
hope this helps
best wishes,
Terri
2007-07-11 16:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Terribou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are trying to be a great friend , the last thing you should do is tell her what you think. You have to let your friend make her mistakes. I say this from experience. It is important you just support her with what ever she decides. It's her mistake to make. She won't see it is you looking out for her. I can tell you how important it is to just support her decision. If the relationship makes it great, if it doesn't be there for her when she needs your help the most. That's what makes the you an amazing friend.
2007-07-11 16:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by alethead74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you love her.
But why is she better off with you when you want to kill her? Just imagine how scared she would be if she would read this! You cant even be patient enough to be her friend in tough times, then how can you be the better choice? If you cant go on like this you should tell her how you feel and if she doesnt feel the same way you have to move on and forget her.
2007-07-11 17:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by jessika s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should leave her alone for sometime she'll come back around if she is a good friend and dont worry about the bf cus there is nothing u can ddo in a relationship like that i just hated when ppl r in love its as if they are vlind they dont listen so just in case always stick around who knows maybe one day she'll need u so dont turn your back on her ok good luck
2007-07-11 16:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you meant "kill her" in a literal sense. Calm down and wait for her. If your gut instinct is correct then she will need you when the baby comes. Continue to be her friend but froma distance, call her sometimes and keep in touch. Be there for her if and when she does need you.
2007-07-11 16:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the time heal u.... try to relax and wait patiently, in case his bf really leave her, then u have to show up as a friend.
2007-07-11 16:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by Adele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already has made her decision. If she didn't want bf around, she'd dump him...sorry...go and find a girl who is available!
2007-07-11 16:42:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋