i am though married depend financially on my parents. my wife not pulling on well with my parents. i am being / have been subjected to emotional torture by both sides and its a pity that for their respective ego problem neither side really worried about the future of my children. instead it is being used as a cue that all these problem is solely cause of my 'drink' which i take in parties. But unfortunately i have been posed as a drunked by both at their convince to aggravated the situation. Most unfortunate being that this fact has also been put in the mind of my 10 yrs old son by non other than my wife ! now my wife amidst a quarrel with my mother has left with her belongings as well my children for her parents house that too when i was in a death bed in the hospital !!! c has started emotionally blakmailing my children not to keep contact with me ? but the kids though loves me too much(cause my wife hardly takes care of their needs) can't also leave the mother so are now in a un-do
2007-07-11 16:09:17 · 12 answers · asked by sanjeebkpadhi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
am really sorry about u'r positon.... but can i ask u something ?
i mean no offense , i swear !! but , y exactly did u marry wen u were still financially dependent on u'r parents ?... waat was the hurry?.... tats the main cause to all this problem .... but at this point of time .... u cant do any thing about u'r past... more over u'r wife is the sickest thing i have ever heard .... how could she leave u when u were in a serious condition ?.... does'nt she have any kind'a emotions ? fine .... let tat be.... my advice to u is .... please pray tat everything gets well soon.... waat else can u do ?.... if u go on for a divorce ... u might be granted if she agrees... but u can have only one child with u ... tats not good either ....
just wait patiently ... HE'LL solve it soon.... but be patient ..... take care ....am really sorry tat i could'nt give u a good answer ....
2007-07-11 16:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to get your crap together son.Quit drinking altogether.If a few drinks is more important than your family then you have major problems.Get on your feet, get your OWN place and tell your wife to come home,then take care of business!If you are having a hard time , turn to GOD.Try the United Pentecostal church,they have programs to help you with the drinking problem, and they can give counseling to you and your wife.You will also find the answers to your problems there.
2007-07-11 16:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If both your parents and your wife are having issues with your drinking, I would say there is definitely a problem. You just haven't been able to admit it to yourself, yet. Once you do this and seek professional help, you will find the other things will also get fixed in time.
Admitting you have a problem is the first step.
2007-07-11 16:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are all tired of you being a burden on them. A person should be able to stand on their two feet at a certain point in their lives, especiallly after marriage and 2 children. And it really sounds as if you are stressing everyone out. When they realize that you are trying to help yourself, they would maybe and that's a big maybe turn around. People get tired of constant negativity around them, and certainly don't want their children subjected to constant negativity.
2007-07-11 16:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you saying that your excessive drinking has led your family to stray from you? Sorry but i didn't really understand your question.Maybe they are concerned for your children even though u don't see why. They feel like most that fathers are supposed to secure their families financially and not the grandparents. That's just one clue
2007-07-11 16:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HEY COME ON MAN, U R CARRYING BAG OF WORMS. GO WORK AND TAKE CARE OF U R FAMILY, THAT WILL NATURALLY BUILD RESPECT FOR U
AND NO DRUNKARD WILL SAY HE IS A DRUNKARD, STOP DRINKING AND STOP PITTING YOURSELF
RESPECT COMES ONLY WHEN U GIVE , NOT WHEN U BEG
2007-07-11 17:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, stop drinking and prove it to ur wife tat u r a better husband and a better father!
as far as ur mom is concerned, then all i am going to say is that...stop being a mommys boy and GROW UP!
MOVE OUT DAMN IT...
2007-07-11 20:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by $itara A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lets see.... long, run on and on and on, rambling question. Hard to read.
A whole lot of people are accusing you of drinking to much? Maybe there's reason for them to think so.
2007-07-11 16:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. stop drinking altogether.
2. get a job.
3. get a divorce and get a new gf
2007-07-11 17:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
be a man and stand your ground pal in my opion?
2007-07-11 16:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋