My son was born 3 months ago and my boyfriend and I have not had sex yet! I feel like we never have any time to. Our son does not sleep very good at night so we don't get much alone time. I really haven't been in the mood i he hasn't really acted like he is either. I am just wondering if this has happened to anyone else and if it's normal and if it will get better?!
2007-07-11 16:06:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes this happened to me and my wife after our first little girl...you both are probably having to adjust to having a little one around to take care of and its hard to get enough energy sometimes to be "in the mood"...me and my wife have 4 children now and are still tired sometimes...once you and your boyfriend get settled into a routine then it will be easier.....the first 3 months after birth are the hardest and then it starts getting easier for everyone.....if you have a babysitter that can watch your baby for a couple of hours once a week then it gives you time to focus on your relationship with your boyfriend and maybe catch a dinner and a movie together...trust me this helps once in a while...
2007-07-11 16:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by allen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is pretty normal. It does get better. right now you are still in the sleep is better than sex mode. maybe try getting a babysitter (grandparents or bestfriends are great for this) and go out to eat or just go home and sleep for a while. Actually the first time we got a sitter we had this romatic, get in the mood evening planned, and then decided to sleep instead LOL. try having a night or time alone at least once a month (once a week is best) and you will get back in the mood
2007-07-11 16:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by dianiagay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is definatly normal! Having a baby changes everything. Your "mood" has been changed bc you are in mommy mode, and the baby does come 1st before sex. You 2 should try to get some alone time though, that is very important. And to be honest it only gets harder to find that time as they get older. A baby that is 3 months should be napping and sleeping alot, compared to a 1 yr old who fights nap time and is into everything! So try to plan "romantic time" around the babys naps. Remember though that you probally still need your naps too! Dont worry, its just an ajustment and you 2 will figure it out. Do voice to your hubby that he is attractive and that you want to snuggle and spend time with him. That will help.
2007-07-11 16:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is normal is different for everyone. I don't think my husband and I even tried until 3 months and it wasn't very great. I had an epsiotomy that took a year to fully heal - so doing the deed wasn't much fun for me until then. On top of all that healing you have a baby who requires your ever demanding attention 24/7 - so you will be very tired. Don't worry it will get better. For me it was better than before (after I fully healed).
2007-07-11 16:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it gets better. you're just tired right now-physically and emotionally. it takes a lot of energy being a mommy and daddy. try to get a babysitter and plan a nice evening for you two alone. you need to make time for you and your boyfriend so that the baby will have happy parents. but don't stress about it, you're totally normal.
2007-07-11 17:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your smart for waiting not suppose to have sex till 6wks at least and on birth control.
alot of ppl mess up and have sex and get pregnant again LOL.
Your exhausted from the baby and too excited to be in the mood it happens sometimes. some women get the urge to have sex alot and some of us get the urge to not at all.
different for us all.:)
dont feel alone alot of women have been through this. when your ready your ready:)
2007-07-11 16:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Crys 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. Your physically and mentally worn out. It will get better. Especailly once the baby sleeps better.
2007-07-11 16:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we had sex a month aftermy son was born, they cut me about a centimeter and i tore the rest of the way, and the only way sex doesnt hurt for me is if im on top.
2007-07-11 16:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will get better when ur baby is napping try and get a quckie in
2007-07-11 16:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by tiffany i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋