what should i expect and wat can i do to help her
2007-07-11 15:51:06 · 7 answers · asked by adam l 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
And you should be there to give her emotional support. You can expect screaming and blood and somebody to count down to PUSH. My husband fainted when the baby came out, my son was like a nurse, monitoring everything, wiping his wife's brow and helping her in any way that he could--holding her when she got her epidural. It can be emotional and overwhelming, but you need to be there. Don't be shocked if she says, "Don't ever touch me again."
2007-07-11 15:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
mate it will probably start with a long boring (but not for her!) wait. they will monitor your missus and the bubs until its action time and then your main job will be to do what feels best for your girl. be that rubbing her back ( drove me insane) wiping her forehead down ( very good) or just holding her hand ( dont remember that part!) you must understand that when it comes to THE time she will be very self absorbed and in a fair bit of pain but the fact that you are there in the 1st place will make all the difference in the world to you and her. your presence will calm her down no end and give her strength in body and mind. my husband was there for our first two difficult births but due to circumstances didnt make it for our third three hour problem free birth and out of those three the hardest for me was the last. to have someone there feeling the same emotions as you do at that time makes such a hard time a way lot easier. and besides all that you are going to experience the most amazing thing you will ever get to see. good luck guys and be positive!
2007-07-11 23:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit up by your girlfriends face, and give her emotional support. you don't have to actually look at the birth, but play it by ear once you get in there.
Remember the whole time -- Its not about you!!! not at all!! The whole time you should be 100% focused on how you can make this a memorable and/or more comfortable experience for HER. discuss in detail with her well before the delivery what her wishes are regarding who is allowed in the delivery room. whether or not she wants picutes of the baby coming out, or just pictures of the baby after it is out. Please try to respect her wishes, cause during the delivery, a woman can only focus on giving birth, and she needs YOU to be her advocate to speak up on behalf of her wishes. respect whatever she says during the delivery regarding pain meds/epidural. If she wants it, make sure she gets it..
in review: It's all about her during childbirth, Not you!!
CONGRATS On your new baby! I'm sure everything will go GREAT!
2007-07-11 23:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
prepare a bag firstly. candy is good like jolly ranchers anything she can suck. pajamas, extra clothes for her (don't forget underclothes) and clothes for the baby, camera and phone numbers. in the hospital make her feel as comfortable as possible. offer pillows, blankets and your hand during a contraction. don't make faces no matter what you see. it will be gross but its going to be the most amazing experience of your life, tell her you love her and tell her how proud you are of her. expect her to be in labor quite a few hours and if you can spend the night, do so. hope this helped a little
2007-07-11 23:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by elyjbc 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be there. encourage her to breathe, help her make decisions, and hold her hand and tell her she looks beautiful and u love her and want to marry her.
2007-07-11 23:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by RockyRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take birthing classes with her prior to delivery.
2007-07-11 22:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marry her first!
2007-07-11 22:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋