suicide???

Question

I lost a friend and i never got to tell him how i felt.I had a crush on him kind of.But now that he's gone i like him more (You never know what you got until its gone).It's been hard not having him around and knowing that i could have spent more time with him but i didnt.Now that he's gone it's been so hard.I cry almost everyday because i miss him so much.I want to die to see him again but i don't want to feel the pain or leave some of my friends behind and go through what i'm going through.I guess that sounds selfish but i can't help it.I want to see a therapist or a counsler but im too scared to tell my mom or dad because i think they might think im crazy for still dwelling over this

Answer 1

Talk to your parents they my understand more than you give them credit for...maybe a grief councilor would help.

Answer 2

First off if you die you won't be seeing him, cause when your dead you are dead. Be grateful for the life you have to live, many people fall into depression because they spend to much time and energy dwelling on something they have absolutely no control over. Depression is a horrible thing and many people would rather die than live with it everyday of their lives. This was probably the case with your friend. You don't want to go down that road. Go out and do things with people who are still living, and enjoy life. Don't let depression rule you like it did to your friend. It sneaks up on you until it finally overwhelms you and rules your life. From someone who knows, by the way I have been to many therapists and they will tell you exactly what I have just told you. Save your parents some money and grief. Take my advice. : )

Answer 3

Losing a friend is very hard. Believe me, I know. There are many struggles that you are going to have to face in life that are going to be even stronger than that. Put yourself in his position...pretend that you're trading places with him. Would you want him to commit suicide over you??Why? Think that one day you will have a family of your own but you won't get to raise a son or a daughter if you are gone. Don't you want to know what life would be like. When someone is gone, that means that their job on Earth is done. God put everyone on this Earth to do a job and when they are finish, their work is done. He was probably a very good person. I would advise you to get help because you do need help getting through this. You can't do it all alone. I may not know you but remember this... I do have love for you and I know that many people do. You have things coming for you in life and you don't want to miss out on it just because a person has done well and went to a better place. He's probably looking down on you...you never know, but know this...God knows your heart and your true feelings. Just learn from your past that's all about life. Life is a like a game...one bad move and the game is over. Much love and I'll pray 4 U!! Get help girly girl girl... I know it's hard but try not to stress okay.

Answer 4

Im so sorry i kind of had the same situation now i don't know your parents but i still think it might help to talk to themm if your depressed and thinking of committing sucide u need to see someone and quick be careful who u tell though some people lock u up in a place but i would definetly talk to someone fast and let all that energy out trust me u will lose friends and family if u keep it in that is really hard going through u need to talk to someone don't kill yourselve u need to do your part in the world maybe when u get older u can help kids not commite suicide by starting a program or something think of happy things and definetly talk to someone i know i don't know u but i care about your happiness

Answer 5

Please dont do anything rash, you are not crazy, and you have a right to mourn over your friend. You need to see this as a learning experience. You never know when it is the last time with someone, so make the time you do have together great. You are a great person, so dont dwell on the past. I know you miss him, and you wish you could see him again. But he wouldnt want you to cut your life short on account of him. Youll see him again in due time. just keep your chin up, and dont be afraid to talk to your parents. they wont think you are crazy. if you ever need to talk, my email is [e-mail]. i hope this helps, just dont be afraid or think you are alone.

Answer 6

First off, it will be ok.

These feelings are normal. But you mustn't end your own life because you see no greater outcome. Life changes and people move on. Theonly one who can decide to NOT move on is you. I don't say that to be mean, I say it to be truthful.

And the really really beautiful thing about what you have gone through (although it has been really bad) is that you can learn from it and not take people for granted. You can decide to have the courage to tell people you love them more. And you can tell others to be more thankful for what they have.

I don't mean this as thought you haven't done those things. I mean it as in you could possibly change your life to include those things even more.

Hope that helps!

Answer 7

They wont think your crazy. your human and your not expected to be perfect. When someone close to you dies it natural to want help or want out ( to die). But hang in there, it will get better with time. Do not act in haste and kill yourself. Dont act miserable just because you are afraid of what your parents will think. They will b totally cool bout it. Parents have feelings and are human too, and may have been through something similar. They aren't that weird ya know.

Answer 8

No one can tell you how long you're supposed to grieve. You definitely need to see a therapist. If you don't want to involve your parents just yet, why not go see the school nurse or counselor? They can tell you where to go from there, and maybe they'll call approach your parents with it and everyone can help?

Suicide is definitely not a solution.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry for you're loss. I knew someone that was like my father cuz I never really had a dad. When she died I was so miserble. Then I thought, "I gotta move on with my life." So i kept doing things to cheer me up, like listen to music, go see my friends, play games. And I'm over it. But there is always a little piece that never heals.

Answer 10

This is probably a very hard time for you. Dont commit suicide because it will hurt others. Remember all the good time you had with him and dont let this ruin your life. You will meet other great boys in your life and eventually get married. Always remember him and if you want pray to him every night. =)

Answer 11

richelle, you know you have a problem and you know you need help. if you can't go to your parents, go to his parents and have them contact your parents or a therapist for you. maybe you should tell his parents how you feel. i'm sure they feel alone right now and that would be nice to hear. then you can talk of the good times. i'm sorry for your loss. get help like you need, suicide is not the answer for you.
this number may help you get started:
1-800-273-TALK (8255) it's a suicide prevention talk line, your parents don't even know you call them. do it now and don't wait. let me know how things work out.