and not think that everyone is judging me or thinking that I am wierd.
2007-07-11 15:40:55 · 7 answers · asked by breezy 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"I rather be hated for who I am then for who I am not"
I use to care so much and where did that lead me?
No where, it only made me realize that I only care for the better of someone else,when being myself is what made me feel comfortable.People will most likely always judge you,but that's common.You are allowed to be an individual and be yourself, never try to fit in the herd.We're all weird in certain ways.I believe once you realize all the different abilities you got from other people.You say to yourself wow im so different and hey! that's a good thing.Because people notice how different you are it gets to the point they want to be just like you.
You need to be yourself but most importantly you need to feel comfortable.
Why care so much if Billy or Sally thinks i'm weird, Billy and Sally are probably worrying about themselves.
Truth is you're not alone.
I've been called
Weirdo,Hippie,Strange,Loser,Freak,Gothic .. wow so many things,but It does not bother me because it's silly ol' labels.
If you're like me,I'm always saying strange old tales and long things sometimes things that make no sense.The point is being yourself will lead you to discovering who you are.
If you need to improve something from yourself then try then do it,but please never change yourself for no one.I once had a friend who cared so much!Who wanted to be liked, and ended up in drugs and worse then who she really was.You're allow to be an individual,there's different people out there.Some will like you others won't,It's being yourself that makes this world so interesting.It's meeting people who have different interest .Think about it..
2007-07-11 15:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that you have had such a challenging past. There is a plus side though. You have survived all the challenges you faced. Now it is time to take it a step forward and learn to heal. If you have not already done this you need to make arrangements to see a counselor, therapist, or attend group meetings for some of the issues you have faced. As for the on line romance possibilities. Remember the object is not to hide behind the computer it is to use it as a way to express yourself. The key word here is yourself. But, If you feel like you are ever at a lost for words ask her about herself. Anything, her job, her childhood, her hobbies, her likes and dislikes. You may find that you have some things in common. Don't use the computer to create a fantasy that has no true grounds. Use it to help you overcome your fear of rejection. If she decides for whatever reason that you are not compatible then at least you dont have that hear that face to face. You might be surprised to find that you are capable of much more than you perceive you are. Baby steps are still steps. Move forward or fall behind. Good luck!
2016-03-15 02:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear you have have being your self is just a fear of what you think others think of you. You need to believe in yourself and say " HEY.....I KNOW WHO I AM AND THAT'S WHAT MATTERS."
2007-07-11 15:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by thinkbig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're hanging with the wrong people. there's nothing wrong with being yourself,marching to the beat of a different drummer, being the non-comformist. maybe you are afraid of being yourself b/c you "believe" everyone else around you thinks a different way.how do you know it's not the other way around? that the others think of you as independent, free thinking and unique?
2007-07-11 16:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think that everyone is judging you or think that your weird is because they probably think your weird that your not being yourself! hehe.If they think your weird then screw them their missing out,you dont need people like them in your life.If you act yourself then you will have new friends at some point.
2007-07-11 15:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Richelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesnt your problem sound stupid to you, feeling fear of being yourself. are you going to mutate into some zombie brain su-cking monster, ah, its night of the living dead all over again. if thats so i think its good to keep it in other than that, well if you arent yourself who are you pretending to be right now, paris hilton? lol.
2007-07-11 16:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should always want to just be your self, being someone else is just being fake.
2007-07-11 17:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋