She glares at me all the time, and acts like she is the school police. I think she is trying to bate me into reacting to her. Should I ignore her or should her, the pricipal, and myself have a talk and find out why she behaves so negatively?
2007-07-11 15:32:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
You are a teacher she is a lowly aide - have her as* fired.
2007-07-11 15:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by griffyn10941 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Is this person an aide to your class? If not, then I would just ignore it. If so, then I think that you should praise this person for any good things that she is doing, if you can find anything at all. If her attitude does not change, then I would have a very polite conversation with her to find out more. When you say she acts like the "school police" what exactly is she doing? Does she actually say something to you or does she just seem to be glaring? I would only talk to the principal about this once I had talked to the aide and not seen any change in behaviour. When I first started teaching, I taught Special Education and had an aide who at times acted like she was the teacher. Because this aide was very experienced and was very good with the students, I did sometimes allow her to teach the class under my supervision. It is important though that everyone understands that she is the aide and you are the teacher and that you will be deciding what role she plays in the classroom. Once I made it clear to the aide that I valued her skills and would give her suitable opportunity to use them, she accepted the fact that I was the teacher and we got along well. As a current Vice Principal, I would not want everyone who thinks that another staff member doesn't like them coming down to the office without first having attempted to discuss the situation with the other person. Also, we can't require people to like one another, but we can administer consequences if people behave in a significantly unprofessional manner. We expect students to practice good conflict management and the staff should attempt to do the same. Also, if the person is just glaring at you and not saying anything, then perhaps she is like this with everyone. If the person has only been glaring, the conversation with the principal might not be very productive. The aide might just say that she isn't glaring and you say that she is. What could the principal do? If the person has said something offensive, racist, etc. then this is a different situation. Some other people have suggested getting another aide, but I don't think it would be a good idea to suggest this to the principal unless this person has been unprofessional towards students.
2007-07-11 23:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful how you approach this situation. I just faced the same thing last semester. I let my assistant know who was in charge, and didn't really care how she reacted. I ignored her! Wow was there a reaction. I didn't want to see her in the mornings, and I know she didn't want to see me. In the end, I was the one who felt bad. She had been teaching there for a while, and I was coming in and changing her world. I was fresh out of college, and filled with lots of new ideas. Everything I did was different than what she was accustomed to doing. I wanted things my way.
But, just because she did things a different way, didn't necessarily mean that they were wrong. One day I had to leave for an hour or more, and she was teaching. When I returned, I observed her teaching. The kids were having fun. They were well behaved, the content was being taught. What was the problem?
Don't take the whole load on yourself. Make her feel like she is part of the class too. Ask her some ideas on certain topics. See how other teachers taught a particular subject ore theme. Sometimes others have better ideas than our own - even though it is hard to admit it.
If you continue to show her that you really want her input, and that you genuinely care, you will win her slowly. Just don't make the same mistake I did. I hope this helps.
2007-07-11 22:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ruthie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most aids are a bit jealous of the teacher because they are not the ones in charge. She is most likely observing you for a reason because she is also learning how you react to situations and the children. You pose a tiny threat because she feels she knows them better than you. Just let her know that her help is greatly appreciated and praise her. You will have her eating out of the palm of your hand in no time. Remember Patience is the best way to conquer a bad situation and make a positive out of a negative. Do not bring this petty stuff to the Dean or Principal it only shows your insecurities.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-07-11 22:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by moondego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you try having a talk with just her? Let her know that you are wanting to work as a team to educate the children. She is vital to you and you want to get a long with her. Then ask her maybe what you can do to make that happen. If that doesn't work then speak with the principal or another colleague and see what your next move should be. You don't want to be miserable all year with some grumpy aid. You will have enough grumpy parents to take care of that for you. This is my way of answering. Hope it helps.
2007-07-11 22:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by The PENsive Insomniac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her professionally at all times and remember you are the teacher. Her problem is her problem. You might discuss it with the principal just as something that concerns you, but insist you do not want your conversation becoming official. You were just wondering if the principal could give you a tip or two about how to deal with her. That way the principal will know there is a problem, and when the aid starts the gossip about you, the principal will already be aware.
Edited to add: I disagree with Andy. That kind of principal wants to collect his check, but not listen to his staff. A principal who won't listen to an unofficial conversation of one of his staff, isn't worth his salt.
2007-07-11 22:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by bsharpbflatbnatural 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ignore her i say this bc if you do confront her if she does not like you she will just be fake about anyway and say OH no i do like you blah blah. NO one said you had to like people you work with you just have tolerate them if she is not saying mean things our right i would just leave it alone and ignore her. when/if she says something out right that is mean and upsetting to you then i would get the principal invoved but until she does someting out right just ignore her.
plus it is hard to prove somthing that you only seen her do and she could just deny it anyway and say you do not like her and you make the class room an upsetting setting. I think ignoring her would be the best bet.
if she makes you that uncomfortable
i dont know if you can but then get her replaced with someone else.I do not know if you need a real good reason or not to do that. You could tell them That you feel more comfortable with someone else.
that might not work.
Not everyone is going to like you. That is just a fact there does not have to be a reason why they just might not. If you can replace her that is up to you.
GOOD LUCK
2007-07-11 22:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would absolutely, confront her in a kind way, and ask her if she does have a problem with you. I would necessarily involve the principal, unless you think that she might be vindictive, and possibly say you tried to rape her or threaten her in some way. I always say that when a person assumes something, it usually is the worst thing. Maybe she is just that kind of person and as far as you know, she doesn't have any kind of agressive, or destructive thoughts about you. Who knows? That is why I would, in one way or another, find out what is really going on.
2007-07-11 22:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I taught 3rd grade before and had issues with the reading specialist. I ignored it most of the year and it almost came back to bite me in the rump. I started documenting everything and sending to my home email every electronic corresponsence we had. You may want to do the same. I finally went to the school discipliarian, who went to the principal. This woman was supposed to apologize to me publically for a derrogatory remark she made about me... she never did.
Maybe you got the job instead of a friend or relative of hers? Maybe even try talking with her to see what's up.
2007-07-11 22:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is jealous.You are the teacher she is the aid.That is your classroom.If she is glaring at you...that is something I would bring up with her real quick.No reason you should be made to feel uncomfortable in your own classroom.Talk to the principal or super. and have her replaced.Bottom line is if you notice it...the kids r noticing it 2.
2007-07-11 22:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by mudgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably been there forever and thinks she knows more than you do. Believe me, I have been there. After 30 years of teaching I have seen this happen many times. Go to your principal and arrange a three way conference. Don't say anything to her unless you have witnesses.
She has to be told that you are the teacher not her.
2007-07-11 22:37:11 · answer #11 · answered by yancychipper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋