what do you think of my sister?

Question

i went to visit my sister recently.. we have gotten along well until i found out for myself that she still likes to keep my stuff as though we were both still in our teens. we are all grown up now. i happened to leave my cd holder with all my new cds at her house. she never called to say that i left them there. i called & i told her i had left them there & she says nothing was there. i have always been nice to her by giving her things i no longer need. if she sees a bracelet on my wrist & she likes it.. she wants to know where i got it & i end up givng it to her. i just want my cds back .. i know she has them. i am nice but not a fool. i hate to ruin our relationship but maybe i should be more bad instead of good.. she wouldn't do that to her other sisters & then why me??

Answer 1

Go to her house, just show up, and say hey I came for my C.d.s. if she says she doesn't have them say, "I must have left them somewhere where you didn't see them, lets just look" You don't have to ruin your friendship, but you also should be able to get your belongings back.. Don't give her time to know you are coming over though, because she might hide them.... and if that doesn't work just confront her and say "Listen! I know you have my Cd's, I'm not mad, but can i have them back?.. If you want some of them we can burn you copies"

hope that helps honey!

Answer 2

Because you allow her do you this way, won't make her love you any more or less. Just out of respect she shouldn't treat you that way. If you are good to her she knows this so just let her know you left your Cd's over there and you know you did. And you would like to have them back, if she insist that she don't have them, stay away for a while until you and her get pass this episode. Try to forgive her and never leave anything of importance at her house again. Don't let this one thing come between you and your sister, this to will pass.

Answer 3

There are mmany reasons why she might have kept them and far too many to go into here, but you say a key thing, which may be the most important.

you don't want to ruin the relationship. Things are important but poeple are priceless. I'm not telling you what to do ,but you might consider letting it go and replacing your CD's as you can.

In the future, don't take anything in her house that you might forget and want back.

Answer 4

I don't think your other sisters are as nice as you. People who are needy and greedy cant be themselves, so every time you buy something nice, they want it. They believe your things are theirs and they want what you have because inwardly they feel lacking in some area. My sister does the same thing to me. I think that she's just insecure or doesn't feel appreciated. People need their own identity and it's hard when your sister has to have everything you purchase.

Maybe she's just plain old selfish. You must set standards if the things are yours, and ignore her if she calls you names. If she calls you names, which my sister does sometimes, she just wants to make you feel as bad as she does.

Have a talk about it, and tell her how much it bothers you. She should care. If she doesn't, don't let her touch anything of yours ever again.

Answer 5

Maybe she left the CD's somewhere very hot and they all melted! =