At what age should a parent start counseling his/her child to help ensure against getting STD's / HIV?

Question

According to the CDC, http://www.cdc.gov/nchstp/od/condoms.pdf (-p.5), there is evidence showing a lack of protection even by condom use in instances of syphilis, genital herpes & HPV. In a perfect world, we could just count on kids waiting 'til they're married; but rowdy or wild, they seem tempted at an earlier age, now.

Answer 1

My son is 9, and my hubby & I have already started to talk to him. Especially since we are now expecting another child.
He asked me all kinds of ?'s ...like will it hurt when she (the baby) comes out & did it hurt when daddy & I made her?
I mean these kids are smart! So I would start them soon, that way they have info in hand.
My sons FF, Ashley came over to play video games..and she was attacking him!
She had him on the floor, grinding him & kissing him! 9 yrs old for Heavens sake!
I threw her out like yesterdays trash! He was in shock! I had a heck of a time trying to describe to him about her...& that she was NOT the kind of girl for him.
He said that her kissing him was GROSS!
He also said that "SHE WAS FORCING HERSELF ON HIM!"
Well, my advice...tell them as soon as they start asking or sooner!
I at least have my son hoping to stay a virgin until marriage.We shall see & pray! He does not want an STD or get a girl pregnant!

Hope this helps, blessings and luck

Answer 2

I would say that there is no set time to start talking to your kids about sex/aids/STD's. All children are different in their understanding level, so it really depends on the child and how closely the parent can "read" when their child is ready.

I started with my son when he started asking about sex ( I think he was 7 or 8). I figured if he was old enough to ask, he's old enough to hear the answer and I never minced words or hid anything. I answered all his questions honestly and then some.

He's 19 now and says that he appreciated the fact that I answered honestly which in school, they fudge around alot of subjects.

Only you can really know when your child is ready to hear what you have to say! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

amleth It's a known that all of these ailments come from having sex with an infected person and not from having a foreskin. It does seem that there is no end to where male mutilationists will go to justify their quirk, in trying to justify circumcision. When one hoax is disproved, another surfaces. As for cancer, the rare cases happen to either natural or circumcised, the irony being that it usually develops on the circumcision scar of circumcised men. I'm not aware of any natural Dudes who don't take great pride in their being clean, so I'm not sure on which planet .. " ms. sophisticate".. comes from. I do know however that she has folds and creases far beyond a natural penis, and places that will never fold back or open or even see sun shine, so I hope that she has come up with a method dealing with her daily freshness and odor problems aside from a strong French perfume? Maybe a good disinfectant soap! Me! :- )

Answer 4

From the time they can understand where babies come from is the best age. My kids have never had to live with the embarrassed feelings about sex or STD's or any thing else to do with sex because we have always let them know that sex is part of a healthy, loving relationship between a married couple. It is never too early to start your kid's education. It is a forever thing. They will retain the 411 forever.

Answer 5

I guess I must live in one screwed up town b/c kids know about sex somewhat by Pre-k and Kindergarten where I live. I start talked talking to my kids about respecting themselves in every asspect of their lives at a very early age. Parents that wait until their kids are in 5-6 grade have waited too long. Although they may not have experimented and may not fully understand- they are already hearing about these things on the play ground. You do not want to go into too many details at an early age but you should still instill the values you want your children to have. Good Luck

Answer 6

okay. Sence i am a kid and i'm a freshman in high school and had brothers infront of me......

i think you should when the kid starts getting seriouse with a girlfriend or boyfriend. If you come on it stronge then its gonna start a fight and piss the kid off. But if you go into it gradually and not push it buy going on and on saying 300 words of repeating what your saying, then your fine. Every person i have ever had to talk to about that has always just said it over and over and over useing different words and after about the 3rd time we are kinda board with it and starting to get anoyed. just my advice from me being a kid and having to go through it with enough adults

Answer 7

I am 18 and my family has been talking to me about sex since i was about 9. I also think being a Christian has help me. I think when kids start asking questions bout what the stars are doing on tv is when parents should start talking to them. I have made my promis to wait till marriage, it hasent been easy but the guys i date take it and respect it or leave it. thats the imporant thing is to ALWAYS stand my ground.Schools teach sex ed to but there is alot of good web sits to look at to help fill you in. Just google STD, and sites pop up that help... GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

when i went to school i was in the 7th grade when the school gave a STD class and i was about 13 or 14 but i think it should be about 11 or 12......the kids these days just don't care.......some of them know about std's and still don't sue any protection.....i have heard of girls as young as 11 getting std's or pregnant........

Answer 9

same here in the philippines, there's a Bill waiting to be passed about teaching family planning and using of contraceptives to young people in highschool and elementary students... my stand about this is like learning how to get the Sum, Product, Difference and Quotient...

we learn this at early age and until now we dont forget that if we use (+) sign/ addition, we get the total or sum... and not use the (x) sign/ multiplication to get the quotient...

if we know what will happen, we know how to prevent.

young people from elementary age have a mind like a sponge... they store memories and lessons in their head until they grow up... and they will not do it by trying it out because the parents says its not good and its bad... but if we teach it to teen agers in high schools... they already have high curiosity level and have the eagerness to make decisions of their own and sometimes doing againsts their parents will makes them feel better...they have higher tendency to do it and try to act it out of curiousity and rebellion from parents.

so i suggest to u that you should try to teach ur kids at very young age while you still have his attention and while he still abides to ur words and while he still see's u as he's hero.

good luck!!!

Answer 10

I let my 10 yr. old child watch- Girl Positive- a movie about H.I.V. - it's a scary reality that one has to teach children before they go to middle school- like in 5th grade.