I'm An Emotional Wreck. Will Someone Help Please?

Question

I dont understand what I am doing wrong. I'm going to college but now it is boring me. I know life is not always fun but I don't know what to do with my life. I like to dabble with different things as long as it catches my attention. I get in relationships and they don't last. Every guy says "It's not me, It's Them", and no one ever tells me if something is wrong. Im not saing to spill your guts but talk to me, that why im in the relationship, is'nt it? I try and get a job and no one will hire me. They say I have no experience, but if no one gives me a chance how will I get experience? I try and not ask my parents for so much because I know that they have other thing that they need to accomplish But always in the end I get hurt. I try and help people to the best of my abilities when I can. I don't like to bother people with my poblems, but in this case I need help.

Can someone please help me I don't know what else to do. I really am lost. Don't control me just help me.

Thank You!

Answer 1

It sounds like your self esteem is to blame. If you don't see the best in you it's very hard for others to do so. Stop trying so hard to please others. And, take your parents help while you can. Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, let me help you by saying that you are not alone in feeling this way! Most every single person goes through a period of time just like what you are describing here! Heck, I'm a full grown adult and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up! As far as the relationships go, honey don't sweat it! The "right" person will come along. Take the failed relationships as lessons and clues as to what you do and do not want in a relationship. Don't look at them as failures. 99 percent of relationships end! There is only that one that lasts forever. College is very boring. If you are feeling as if you are in the wrong major, switch. Sometimes if you feel as if you are hitting a brick wall in every turn you make, then you are not heading in the right direction! As for the job and experience, that is very typical. Depending on what field you are looking into, it can be hard to get your foot in the door. Sometimes you have to start small and work you way to big. I know plently of people, for example, who have started working at grocery stores as cart goffers or baggers and have ended up as the manager. My case, I started at a hospital as a receptionist and now I manage the whole place. Just try to keep your chin up! Remain positive!!! That is very important!!!! The more negative you are, the worse everything will be. Find some activities that you do enjoy. Don't worry so much about the relationships. Enjoy each day and all the beauty that comes with it, and if nothing else enjoy a chuckle at everything that did go wrong at the end of the day. Sometimes just sitting back and realizing all that has happened that is out of your control and laughing at it will take the edge off. We are all really small in this great big world...and sometimes we feel as if we are lost. Do what feels right for you, and have faith in yourself! You will get past this, and you will be ok! It may not seem like it right now, but it will happen!!! Good luck, and remember to keep smiling!!!

Answer 3

Try to understand that you are in a fantastic time of your life and it will never happen more than once. Dont waste time worrying about what is wrong with you and determine what is right. Your folks can help here. It sounds like you can probably do a lot of things and that can be a problem in that it is hard to set goals if you dont know what direction you are spose to go. If you could do only a small range of things the choice would be easier. Shadow some people to see if you like what they do. See what is rated at the library as a up and coming valuable vocation. What ever you do dont quit. Now you go girl.

Answer 4

I think tha job part is the whole confidence and facial exdpressions problem. Go in there with a positive mind and a smiling face. Let them know that you want to help and make new freinds. Tell them that you would like to work and grow and learn in their business. Help as many people as possible it will help in the long run! You will feel better about yourself also! Just be careful b/c if you help guys, they might make you feel sorry for them and pressure you into things you don't want. Be careful and try again. The college thing and why you aren't happy is because you are so worried and stressing about everything else you can't concentrate on what you like. Concentrate and have fun... try not to stress out as much and go on with your life with a positive attitude and smiling face.

Answer 5

first of all i KNOW how you feel. i went thru the same exact things. But listen, always remmeber a guy that rejects you is an IDIOT. relationships can hurt sumtimes its better 2 be on ur own anyways. Now about the job, keep looking TRY all posssible places no matter what the pay is, and ask ur friends for help and hey! don shy away from askin ur parents caz they mite even b able to help! Dont let ur life slip away caz u cant ever get it back. Enjoy every POSSIBLE moment and remmeber ur lucky because u can go 2 college and everything. u have all ur needs in life jus go wit da flow and chill. Trust me, jus live, laugh, and love. thats all you need
I hope u feel better lemme know how it goes. AND jus relax and enjoy =)


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Answer 6

You sound young: I remember about that circle on the job & experience problem myself. In your college, you may want to find something that more deeply interests you, so that you can be happier during your years as a working adult rather than miserable with a high-paying job. If you can bear it, I would suggest taking a quiet walk somewhere peaceful & praying to God about this stuff. He might not drop an envelope on you with the answer right away, but if you give it time and practice giving yourself a time for quiet & reflection, you may find the answers forming for you.
Back to the job part. You may have to take something simple to start with; however, if you show yourself to be a good & dependable worker, over time, your boss may offer or be open to suggestions that you begin helping the business in ways of increasing responsibility. This may mean some on-the-job training, which may open up to more work experience valuable to you in the future.
Dabbling. -- Can you use your varied interests in a goal-oriented way? Can you connect the dots and see if God is preparing you for something useful ahead in life. It may be something unheard of/ not thought of, seemingly, but that may prove to be of value, later.

Answer 7

Wow, you got a lot to work out!

The only thing I could do at that point was just SLOW DOWN and relax. I accept life on life's terms now. The world isn't going to end for at least another 5 years or so, so just relax. Breathe. You got a lot going for you, there's going to be terrible days and WOUNDERFUL days. Man, I'm struggling BAD. I don't even wanna get into it, but you think you got trouble finding a job? I'm on parole in a small town out in the middle of nowhere and EVERYBODY knows me for making front page news back in 2001. I got 66 college credit hours with a 3.67 GPA. The me that made the news was a high school drop out...but all the employers are afraid to higher me because of my name. I can swear up and down till I'm blue in the face I'll never have anything to do with drugs again...but they won't even let me flip burgers!

Anyway, Trust someone else who is stressed out..."This to shall pass" We'll be alright. just do the best you can and press foreword every day. NEVER give up. You'll get that job, you'll find that special someone, you'll be okay.

Not trying to push anything on you at all, but GOD has a way of really helpin us out in our time of need. Ya might wanna try a little heart filled prayer....

Answer 8

what are you going for in a major? see if you can find internships for that major. there are also aptitude inventories to help you focus your strengths and make sure that you are pursuing the right major. try the library or your counselor for those aptitude tests.
as for the guys "it's not me" is a cop out. don't worry about that right now you have so much waiting for you and there will be plenty of guys. they're like buses, honey...
have you ever thought about taking a semester and studying abroad? a change of scenery might do you some good... like a summer program nothing fancy or even a language immersion course.. American males are not that mature and they might not be ready for you yet.

Answer 9

Please above everything, you are doing the right thing by helping yourself first. One day you'll be out of school and able to take that degree ,and get a job any where. Don't settle. As for a job, I have always been able to find time to help the elderly. Any spare time is always appreciated. I never fail to learn anything either. You'll better off alone then dealing with someone that doesn't deserve you. GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

in case you have been married until now you need to comprehend extra effective. If somebody is going to cheat with you what makes you think of they gained't cheat on you? people allow you to comprehend something that they think of you may prefer to take heed to. This guy has the terrific of the two worlds. He has a spouse and a edge fling. he is going to allow you to comprehend what you prefer to take heed to to maintain you around as long as he needs you to be there. He knows you're unlikely everywhere and he's utilising that to his benefit. If he certainly needed to be with you he would not shop providing you with excuses. he's together with his spouse for a reason and if he did no longer prefer to be there he would not. If somebody loves you they supply you their all no longer excuses. Thats why he can no longer supply you a time-physique. awaken and understand what he's doing. it particularly is why alot of folk take others with none attention, because of the fact they supply a stable line and dummies fall for it, then they shop stringing them alongside. that's what he sees you as is his dummy...

Answer 11

It seems we all go through that stage in life. It is called growing up, dear. Just think positive, believe me, it will be over soon. One thing though, try to stick to your studies, it they seem boring, it's probably because you need to make a change. What is it that interests you? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Sometimes it helps to make a list.;) As weird as it may seem try to enjoy the most of this tough time; it will be over soon.