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My BIL from Texas just called, and asked about us being able to see each other. (Meaning his family & mine) They intend to go to a water park, & I had already explained to his parents that my hubby, son & I would not be going.
Well, he comes back & says, "The kids were hoping that your son would go."
He has already been there, & we three had agreed to spend the day together doing something fun here in town, JUST the THREE OF US! I CAN go to a regular swimming pool, but NOT a water park. It is DR's orders, due to being 7 1/2 months -8 1/2 months pregnant by the time they get here. I also have herniated discs, and I am already having back problems & may not make it to full term.
So, anyways...these people do not take no for an answer! How many times do I have to tell them about this? I mean a baby for us has only come once in ten years, b/c our boy will be 10 & the new baby is something we have prayed for!
What do I do to make these people understand? I like them but man!

2007-07-11 14:06:04 · 8 answers · asked by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

More Info...these are the inlaws that neglected my son! I left him with them & they NEVER changed his diaper! Then when he was older & we found out he had asthma...they NEVER gave him his meds! They told me that I was full of S**T, & they did not believe me. But he had meds prescribed by a DR. for God's sake! Has his name on the flipping box!
So why would I leave my son in their care, when they don't really give a crap!
Also, hubby & son promised to stay with me since I am having medical problems!

2007-07-11 14:41:40 · update #1

8 answers

Do NOT let yourself get drawn into an argument. They are trying to "negotiate" you into capitulating. You are an adult. You are perfectly capable of calmly saying, "I'm sorry but we are following my doctor's orders. Another time perhaps." Then drop it. There is no arguing on this -- RIGHT?

If he persists, simply change the subject or refuse to answer anymore. You've given them their answer. Or maybe they want to hear it from your husband. Why isn't HE talking to them on the phone? They're his family - tell him to grow a backbone and speak up.

2007-07-11 14:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by D 6 · 1 0

Miss Wolf, Your hubby needs to stand up and put his foot down ! You,your son and unborn child should be his top priority ! You should not be getting stressed. Well I love you and will pray for your peace of mind and distance from your in-laws ! Jesus be near !

2007-07-12 14:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0 0

GEEZ!!! what is their problem...lol...well, let them know that you have told them so many times that it is hard for you to be going around becasuse of the pregnancy. Im sure they would like your son to join them, but that will still be alot of work for you. How about having them take your son? are you ok with that? atleast for the day? well, if not then ok...also let your husband explaine to them that they need to understand you cant be going everywhere...and also have them understand that after you deliver, things will be easier...and then maybe they can start calling again...

2007-07-11 21:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by <3 Is It You <3 2 · 0 1

Ask your doc to write a "note" and send it to them. If that does not work...you are just going to have to put your foot down. I would have been much more verbal about this - but you seem like a nicer person than me. They should be taking your health into consideration....since they aren't - I would not be taking anything they want to do into consideration......family or no family...does not matter

2007-07-11 21:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by DAB 4 · 1 0

why not let your son and hubby go? The 3 of you can go to a regular pool another time.
Compromise.....and you can get some much needed rest on water park day...just for you.
Good luck!

2007-07-11 21:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany I 3 · 1 1

Having had no one to help me, I think you are very lucky to have a family like that. They sound like nice well-meaning people. It's good for the boy to bond with the extended family and it would give you a rest.

2007-07-11 21:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0 1

Well, they just want to interact with the son's family...and be friendly...you can't blame them for that! They're lonely and want to spend time with the family :)

2007-07-11 21:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Cirque de Soleil (Is bored) 5 · 1 2

tell them to back off

2007-07-11 21:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by tooba ash 3 · 1 0

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