Where are the parents?? Teens are out of control?

Question

I don't know if anyone has read or watched this story but I am appalled!!! With all of the atrocities that young american teens are committing I have to ask what is going wrong with parenting these days? Why are children acting in such an amoral fashion?


http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2007/07/06/ap/national/main3025952.shtml?source=mostpop_story

If it is not the parenting, then what is the problem? Why are these kids acting like this? Monsters are not born they are created. Who is failing the family, society or what?

Answer 1

According to the story I don't think the parents could have done anything to prevent this. I cannot conceive that any partent would even think that they should teach their kids not to do something like this. And if they are sick enough to do something like that then, really, how can the parents prevent this? Poor people have little to no help when their kids need psychological help and the police can't do anything unless there has been something prior that they can prove. There are just some desparately sick people out there.

Answer 2

Please read what this fourteen-year-old has to say.

I think that part of it has to do with the parenting. Parents who don't discipline their kids at all teach them that no matter what they do, they will get away with no punishment. If you've ever watched Super Nanny or Nanny 911, most of the parents are upper-class people that don't have time for their kids to teach them what is good or bad. "Oh, your sister hit you? Wait a second, I have an important phone call to make." These kids are spoiled.

Another part of it is pop culture. It's supporting an image of tough, rich people who have the best cars, clothes, and relationships. Probably 75% of popular music today consists of nothing but money, nice stuff, and great girlfriends/boyfriends.

Yet a different portion exists. It's over-protectiveness. Shielding and sugar-coating major situations makes them seem less dangerous and more acceptable to kids. There are bad people in this world, and kids need to see what happens to bad people. They aren't living the good life- they're in jail, some have even been executed for what they did. I'm not saying that you should tell a four-year-old all about the Holocaust or anything... just if they ask, tell. Discuss drugs and crime and what might happen if they do something like that.

Finally, and I know this sounds almost absurd, but kids feel need from adults to do terrible things. Sorry, but even when you say "teens are out of control", you're grouping us all together, creating a need to be with those "out of control" teens. You're making it sound like a majority, not a tiny percentage.

Hopefully in four years when I'm eighteen and ready to leave the house, I'll have enough sense in my head not to do anything harmful. I'll just hope that going into high school next year I'll have a class full of good citizens, not criminals.

Answer 3

It's horrible. I read an earlier report in which the mother of one of the accused said she could believe her son could do such a thing. Parents need to be more involved. Of course one problem is the fact that they may have to work more than parents did in the past, but that's still no excuse for what happened. My brother and I were taught right from wrong and knew that if we did anything wrong we would be punished.

Answer 4

brutal for sure but this sort of thing has been going on throughout history and is nothing new. disturbing, yes of course. do i wish i had a cure, yes. unfortunately i do not have an answer of how to put a stop to this but it is certainly nothing new and it is not any more rampant than previous generations, it is just more widely reported. look around and you will see that incidents like this are far outnumbered by the good things today's youth is doing that unfortunately don't make the evening news. today's teens are fine people and should not be judged by the rare atrocities the media is so happy to air.

Answer 5

Because during the past twenty years or so, our society has decided that nothing is anbody's fault. Everything anyone does bad is due to an illness, syndrome, or addiction. Whatever you did, it 's not your fault. No one takes personal responsibility for anything. It seems when we were growing up, if you did wrong and got caught, you admitted it and accepted the consequences of our actions. That's how we learned there were consequence to what we did, just as we learned that there were rewards for what we did too. Now, there are no consequences because it's not anyone's fault. Somewhere we lost all discipline in this country. I'm not sure when it disappeared, but the results are showing up everywhere now.

Answer 6

i dont think theres a word good enough 2describe how repulsive ppl r getting.my goshhh, that poor 12 yr. old. if i were in a situation like that, i m dead serious wen i say this; there aint no f-ing way im gunna do sumthin like that w/ ne family of mine, they just hav 2shoot me, cuz i just WONT do that!i may say im 2young 2die, but im not THAT desperate 2live. as 4where the parents r these days, the 1z that dont seem 2care @ all about their kids; only God knows. in my opinion, the parents of these kind of kids r braindamaged, & hav 4gotten how 2do it properly.(if they care so much about their kids, then y r they not teaching discipline??????)im 18 &am 1of those few kids left in the world that still know the meaning of the word 'behave'.ive nevr gotten in trouble w/ the law. & im sure its not just american kids, its kids in canada 2.probly all over here & there. ive heard of ppl doin far out things(i read about sumthin just last nite or the nite b4 it), but this is the worst ive read-but only if u consider the forced incest part.i SWEARRR, im gunna puke all over this world, NE TIME NOW!!!if ppl wont raise their kids properly, they shouldnt hav kids 2start w/! just like ppl who hav pets shouldnt b allowed 2hav pets if they dont treat them properly.

im really startin 2wonder where a little deserted island is 4me 2escape this sick world. i wanna b like gilligans island. only hav a way of getting back so i can get supplies.

i was just thinking a few min. ago(my actual answer came yesterday), y'no wut would REALLY suck? if he got his own mom knocked up. hes already scarred 4life, that would make it even more h--.

Answer 7

This

beating people with cinder blocks.

Ok you know what I'm'14 and never have been introuble with the law school or done anything wrong in that regard.


So push off will you?

Answer 8

yea i know, i asked the same thing and somebody called my question "silly"