I am mom to three, ages 6 years, 4 1/2 years, and almost 3 years. They were all vaginal births. For the last year or so, when my husband and I start having sex, I can feel him going in but once his penis is inside I feel nothing. It's as if I've gone numb. This is very upsetting for me....having sex with my husband is a GREAT part of our lives and I'm missing out. I've talked to him about it, but I think he feels as if I'm over-reacting. He'll say something like "Well, honey, don't you remember......" and he'll go on to describe a time when his penis hit my cervix and I "cried out" in pain. Well yes, I do remember that...but it's easy to make a woman's cervix hurt. Anyone who's had a pap smear will agree with me. Where I'm not feeling anything is all along the vaginal walls. There's a g-spot there, and a lot of times I need that for a climax. Is this normal? I'm due for an exam soon anyway, but I wanted to know if it's just me.
2007-07-11 10:35:55 · 6 answers · asked by Lissa 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have two children and fortunately I'm one of the women who haven't had a problem with stretching of the vaginal walls.
Have you tried "Kegel" exercises? (Squeeze the muscles inside your vagina several times a day, as if you are trying to stop yourself from peeing mid-stream....that muscle!)
I do them all the time, and the great part is, you can do them anywhere, no one will ever know. I try to do 20 a day, some women that experience severe stretching could do 20 times a set/three sets a day. Try to hold them for at least 10-20 seconds at a time. Within a month you should notice improvement!
If it's actual "numbness" I would certainly tell your doctor, it could be something serious. I've never heard of that before.
2007-07-11 10:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
As others have said here, you probably have gotten "stretched" from your babies. Many women can regain a lot of their vaginal tone through "Kegel exercises." These exercises are designed to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles. The exercises consist of the regular clenching and unclenching of the muscles which form part of the pelvic floor (sometimes called the "Kegel muscles").
Basically, regular Kegel exercise increase sexual pleasure for women and their partners. If you practice these pelvic floor contractions during vaginal sex, the woman can get immediate feedback from her partner, who can tell her whether he feels her muscles tightening.
Talk to your doctor about them. He/she probably has some information on how to do them, but there is a lot online too, if you do a search.
Good luck
2007-07-11 10:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have nerve damage from childbirth OR perhaps a herniated disc could be affecting the nerves which enter the utero/vaginal area.
2007-07-11 11:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After kids our vagina's get stretched out beyond belief. It's normal and it has happened to me...I started doing the kegel exercises and it has helped a lot.
2007-07-11 10:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by summerB 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that's normal. I just hope to God that there's something the dr. can tell you to do.
Have you tried Kegel's? Or KY warming gel? That's all I have in my magic bag of tricks for you. Best wishes.
2007-07-11 10:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try some excerises for down there dont know what to call it but it should be easy to research
2007-07-11 10:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋