If so, do you want your child or children to have a male influence?, I have a young son and although I know I can take care of him by myself, don't much care about getting married, I still would like him to have a male teaching him some of the guy stuff, whatever it is they do... probably something with power tools, or things I'm not to good at like math and science, afterall I don't want my son growing up doing all the girl things that I do, lol, not to mention I noticed that when there is a man around my son seems to want to follow him around, mostly if he's fixing something in the apartment. Are any of you like this, do you want a guy to help or would you rather do it yourself.
2007-07-11 10:28:58 · 24 answers · asked by Unicorn's 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
nope, just single
2007-07-11 10:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by gggangsta 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This can be a good thing. You said that you don't want to get married. That's okay, but don't be a man hater, that will warp your little boy. Don't be afraid to date, ya know?
I guess that if we've already lost you to the other side, there are other ways you can have a male influence for your son. For example, there is probably a neighbor around you that had kids of his own. Try to make friends with him, and see how your boy reacts to him.
There are studies that show that kids who grow up without fathers tend to get into more trouble growing up. You should at least try to get a guy friend to be around him some.
2007-07-11 17:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I am a single father.I have a 8 year old daughter who is uhhh let's just say growing up to damn fast.I have read a few books and she seems to be alright so far.But it has been just the 2 of us all of her life.My Mom helps a lot, but sometimes I feel that she needs a mother figure other than grandma.I don't want a relationship.Your son is still young a lot of that he can learn as he grows up.There are classes in high school to teach kids about power tools.You can get started with some of the Bob the Builder workshop toys at Wal-Mart.He will enjoy beating on stuff with his hammer and it teaches him how to use it.Good Luck!
2007-07-11 17:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Desperado 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came from a family that did not have a father. My mom is the greatest, and she made me so much of what I am today. I am now a coach and a teacher so that I can be that positive roll model for young men. I honestly believe that as a mom it is your responsibility to make him those things. You don't need another man (my mom never remarried) He can learn manly things from relatives and friends dads. I had a best friend who's dad treated me like another son. Don't worry about how he will turn out. I am just fine...and he is likely to have a greater amount of respect of women in the end too.
2007-07-11 17:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nicktacular 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for a male influence. A uncle,grandfather or perhaps and male friend that you have known is good with children. The Big Brother Big Sister program is good also. Perhaps the YWCA programs. Yes, a male roll model is good. There are some things you could answer for him. However, just likes girls the guy questions come up. BE SELECTIVE.
2007-07-11 17:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by legermarianne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I'm not. My marriage is still going strong and the nest is now almost empty, but you are correct. Children of both sexes need strong role models of both sexes. Perhaps your father can step into that role as he has a longterm vested interest in his grandchild. Also, any brothers as they too have vested interests. Be very careful, though, not to introduce men who float in and out of your child's life at the whim of your love life. Boyfriends shouldn't be a part of your child's life unless they are going to become a permanent fixture. (And by permanent, I mean until your child is grown.) Children bond very quickly and having that bond torn apart is damaging...now and to their future.
2007-07-11 17:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very lucky I am not now, but I have been there. I have a daughter and I think that would be easier then having a son. Hey get the power tools out yourself, you may be handy with them :)
2007-07-11 17:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tinkerbell77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you offered yourself to a healthy male with a strong drive, you could coerce him into teaching your son how to use power toold s to get illicit cable hookups and thus get free cable. This would also allow you some fringe benefits if the guy was good in bed and had endurance. Good luck.
2007-07-11 17:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i am a single mother of two young boys , i broke up with their father a year ago. i'm going to stay single for a long time now, men aren't my top priority at the moment . i can understand what your saying , luckily for me though my ex ( my kids father ) is a very good father and still takes time to see them and spend quality time together so they still have a good male influence to look up to :)
2007-07-11 17:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single adoptive mother of a son and a daughter. my father was in their lives til his death. now my brother and uncle provide male influences. you could sign up with Big Brothers. my kids are grown and feel I did a good job raising them. they never felt the need for a father.
2007-07-11 17:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I was a single father many years ago with three boys, discriminated by the courts in Arizona ,California. It's all slanted for the woman. Heard it's changed somewhat. Sure didn't help me or my boys at the time.
2007-07-11 17:32:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋