Being A Teenager Sucks?

Question

here is my problems world. I can not take criticism well, i am too damn sensitive, i become depressed easily, i don't know how to express myself. I can not think of words to say when confronted with a problem. I feel so alone and so different yet i feel normal. I feel like i am the only flawed person on this year. I can not speak up and stand up for myself i am too afraid. I really want to talk to people but i don't know how. I know this may all seem easy for you but it is not for me. It is hard for to ignore the people that are picking on me. I hate how the norm is too feel numb or not care. If i feel like crying then let me cry. If i am pissed let me be pissed regardless of how ridiculous it is I am mad about. I hate being for to be emotionless. Any tips, comments, advice, or similiar stories. Thanks.

Answer 1

gee this is how i feel, and i am old....

being old sucks too...

Answer 2

You are absolutely right, being a teenager sucks! You are not alone nor odd by any means. Being a teenager is rough because you are stuck between 2 different realities, your own personal thought process and the rest of the world, and more often then not it seems like you’re the only one who gets what you are trying to say. At your stage in your life you are struggling with a multitude of questions with no answers. Who are you and what do you want to be? What is this world coming to and how can you change it? What is religion and what should I do about it? It's one big mess, and the only way out of it is time. I'm sorry, that’s not the answer you are looking for but its true. The world changes dramatically for the better when you reach your young adulthood. Words and ideas will come easier to you and you will have more experience and understanding to draw from.

It is hard to ignore people who pick on you, I got picked on a lot too, it sucks and there is nothing that you can do about it. The only thing you can do is ignore them, not only physically ignore them, but mentally as well. This world is full of idiots and think of your teasers as practice for the real world. Besides, all the kids who made fun of me wound up in jail, parents before they were ready and jobless/helpless because they spent too much time poking fun and not enough paying attention. So just know that not only are you normal, you are doing well and it will get better.

If anger from kids at school and your situation becomes a problem for you (which it sounds like it is) channel that rage into something productive. Art is a good vent for anger, many amazingly descriptive artworks focus on our raw emotions. Also, maybe you would want to take martial arts? I took Tae Kwan Do to help me deal with my frustrations, not only did I feel better about myself and others, I got a great workout and I knew that even though those guys who picked on me had the upper hand in the classroom, if it ever came down to it I could make them cry for mommy. That always helped me deal with them.

Answer 3

Many of the problems you describe sound like depression or possibly social anxiety. It could just be "teen angst" but then people who are prone to depression often start noticing symptoms in their teens.

I would recommend seeing a therapist. Many people mistakenly view the word "therapist" as an indicator of insanity, when really therapists are just out there to help people who have problems. This means anybody, and not just people who are mentally ill. They are there to help you understand any problem that is bothering you and to help you solve it.

Many of your problems sound similar to mine. I have clinical depression which was diagnosed when I was 16 because I "ran away" because I was so angry at the world. I also have social anxiety problems and have trouble expressing myself and connecting with others. Trust me, NONE of that sounds easy to me. And I know several people who would agree.

The teenage years are very stressful because we start to take on responsibilities and realize that life is NOT easy. I am 99% sure there are other people in your year going through very similar feelings as you, but they're afraid to show it.

And I really hope it's not becoming the norm to be numb, that would make for an awful world. Emotions are a good thing and serve an evolutionary purpose. Without them we probably wouldn't have evolved into the species we are today. So you shouldn't care if people pick on you for having emotions; those without emotions are the ABNORMAL ones! They are probably just insecure and pick on you because you don't hold back your emotions, like a normal healthy person!

I just read the comment above mine and I second everything that he said!

Answer 4

hey i know how you feel. Sounds like you might have social anxiety or just anxiety. Maybe not. Everyone feels this way once in a while. For example, i am very afraid of school. The ppl there freak me out and i am scared they will make fun of me or talk behind my back even though im a normal person. You have to take a chance. The only reason you feel this way is because you care about what others think. Breath, try to calm your mind and keep your shoulders back and down. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Everyone has flaws and everyone gets nervous sometimes. Try to show your good side and that you aren't afraid. Be strong :) good luck!!

Answer 5

Personally, I think you are feeling what a lot of teenagers feel. I agree with you that being a teenager isn't easy in some ways. There is so much peer pressure to be a certain way or hang out with a particular group of people. The important thing to remember is that you are living in a very small world right now. Once you are out of school and on your own, you will realize that all those popular people were just big fish in a small pond. They will be nobody's when they go to college or out in the business world. Things get a lot more equal then. Also, if you feel like crying, I agree....cry, let it out. If your pissed, work through it until you feel better. Standing up for yourself can be as simple as walking away from people who are teasing you or annoying you. Walking away or ignoring them doesn't mean it doesn't bother you or hurt you, it just means you won't listen to it or put up with. Yelling back at them would only take you to their level and make things worse. As far as criticism goes, it's important to learn to accept constructive criticism. Not cruel mean sarcastic criticism, but the kind that is meant to help you and make you better. The easiest way to learn to talk to people is to ask them things about themselves, then they end up doing most of the talking and it opens up a lot of topics to talk about. Also, most people like to talk about themselves. Also, a compliment is a good way to start a conversation. Everyone likes a compliment. You will start to feel better about yourself as soon as you start to accept yourself and your good qualities. You have opinions, ideas and things to say so speak up and be yourself. Not everyone is going to like or accept us ever! That's ok. The greatest thing to learn is to accept yourself and others just the way you are. We can have different opinions but still be friends with someone. Try your best to enjoy your teenage years. Have some fun. It won't be long before you are grown and on your own with lots of responsibilities. Right now, enjoy your life and don't be afraid to try new things. That's what life is all about.

Answer 6

I know sometimes I've felt that way at times when I get picked on or talked about. That's all about being a teenager.......sometimes we just get in mood swings for no apparent reason. Sometimes we're mad but don't know why. Sometimes we can be overly sensitive and emotional. Those are the ups and downs of being a teenager sometimes. All that is just hopefully temporary.........probably just a phase.......everyone goes through that in some point in their life. We all feel at times that we screw everything up and or everything we do is wrong. Just don't take things that seriously at times......we all make mistakes some times.

Answer 7

I feel the same way sometimes...but ive learned that u have to be confident no matter what regardless what people think...being more confident has given me courage to stand up to people i dont like and talk to people it seems scary at first to meet people but once you get used to it ull be makin friends....yea its also hard because we are teens i think it sucks too.... keep ur head up ull learn

Answer 8

i was the same in high school. but then i started to work with the public like at themeparks and the grocery chain and i got to be very forward with my feelings and how to talk to people . places like those you have to talk to people you dont even know so i learned how to plus youll have co workers who are in the same situation and are willing to help. i was a loner and very shy in high school. no one really accepted me into their group cause they could not understand me . some people dont like others cause they are different than themselfs. but dont forget that everyone in this world is gonna be dieefernt no matter in color,size, race, hight, speech . and such. try to do a job that involves the public hope fully it might help as it did for me

Answer 9

Yeah, I feel that way too. I hate it when adults say that teens are selfish and that we are horrible and ungrateful brats, etc. And then they say, these are the best years of your life quit moping around! But it feels like the worst time of your life. And yeah, they can say that they went through the same things and all but even my parents admit that the world has gotten worser since they were teens. There are more pressures now, more wacko people are out there.Sometimes I have trouble talking to people too. I walk up to them and I can't seem to say anything and I feel as if noone wants to listen to me because they think I'm boring when really its just because I'm shy. Sometimes I envy people who can get along with everyone so easily and good conversations seem to flow out of their mouths effortlessly which frustrates me because I can't do that. And with people I know well I could talk so much and have fun but sometimes I feel like I can't do that anywhere else. People would talk about you but even later every single word they said about you runs over and over in your head and you remember and you feel depressed. Yeah, a lot of the time I feel alone and conflicted and just like you. But I'll tell you that things do get better. I'm pretty happy with my life right now. As bad as it sounds, you have to wait for time to pass because things change and get better. You have to be patient and at the same time you have to change yourself. I know its hard having to change yourself when its everyone around you who seems to be the ones that are doing something wrong. But you can't really change the people around you so instead you should try to change yourself so that you will be able to deal with everything. As hard as it seems, you have to find someone like an adult to confide in and tell about your feelings. That helped me so much. And wait. Like the bad things people did to me, lets say last year, I barely remember them. I mean, I remember them but now it doesn't really matter. Its all in my past, I'm at a different place in my life now, that was just one tiny part part of my life I'm here now I moved on. After awhile it gets easier to move on from setbacks. And a lot of times the people who you want to have frienships with end up being the people who you should have never hung out with. Because they never liked you. They used you while you were popular, in the spur of the movement. So be very very careful with people. I personally think that its better to be on your own with few friends than popular. Because then you rise and fall with your own doings and stand all on your own. And you feel proud. Also, learning about God has made me such a stronger person. Honestly, its the best thing I have ever done in my life. So pray, talk with an adult, change, and be patient. Things WILL change.

Answer 10

When I read this I was like: Oh my sh*t! It's exactly the same for me(except for that thing about not standing up for yourself, because nobody messes with me and gets over it. If I don't take out my revenge emidiatly, I will sometime in the future). Please message me. I wanna talk... about the real stuff. You would be the first one.

Answer 11

Woah,you just descibed me.I know teenager stinks(concidering i am one),but it usaully gets better.But think about how easy you get it for now cuz when your an adult,your going to be in hell.