what can i do i worry ill never achieve my dreams of emigration to the u.s or canada, and meet a canadian girl

Question

or a u.s girl, and to settle down over there, what can i do, these are my dreams and ambitions.......? im a 30 year old borderline personality disorder sufferer who lives in the uk....those dream and ambitions seem unreachable and unachievable to me, like there a long way off....ive grown up in a system in the uk thats abused me and let me down...ive suffered alot of trauma....and now i just wanna move far away, wipe the slate clean and build a new life...ive never worked or never had a girlfriend, im physically aging fast.....im seriosly worried i wont achieve my ambitions and ill be prevented from leaving the country because of my past..
my ambition and goals are to move to the u.s or canada, find a loving girlfriend, and build a new life...its all i think about when im sat here alone and lonely in my small apartment everynight claiming welfare...im scared ill live the rest of my life like this, my thoughts race,i have constant low moods and anger problems to deal with in therapy to

what can i do?

Answer 1

you can do alot...I really feel for you, & I know how despair is like..but I promise you, you can have your dreams...
first, start asking God for help, talk to Him like the bestest friend you ever had, all your worries,hopes,even despairs..everything..then really feel for an answer, I swear he won't ignore you, you are His child!
also, I wanted to let you know about this book, please buy it & if you put in all the mental efforts, you'll begin to change your life for the better..I can already see you succeeding & anything you put your mind into, you can acheive...
http://www.amazon.co.uk/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/202-9656346-3202260?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184190402&sr=8-1

thank you for your question, it's a lesson for us all to chase our dreams..dream on...
xxxxxGigi

Answer 2

you're probably going through depression and have anxiety. im very sorry to hear this. I am myself an immigrant from europe and i live in USA. It was hard at first but i always dreamed of living here. YOu can too. Take the actions you need to and pray to God that you'll make it. Be strong. Take deep breaths and remember someone will be there for you. good luck!!

Answer 3

OMG you sound precisely like me. i'm 20 in college and that i'm searching for a extreme relationship yet many of the adult adult males at my college desire to occasion, get inebriated, sleep around and are merely no longer the form of adult adult males i desire to date so i've got placed all my capability into going to regulation college and assembly new human beings there. My mothers and dads tell me the suitable person will come alongside and its once you at the instant are not looking that somebody will enter your existence. yet i think of its super which you're so directed and comprehend what occupation you like. i'm that way too and rather lots all the adult adult males I meet have not have been given any theory what they desire to do in existence.

Answer 4

You wont get there if you've never worked! Go and get a proffesion, look at what kind of proffesions these countries are lookin for, then pick one you like and go for it
Sounds to me the ony reason your not already there is your feelin too sorry for yourself.
99.9% of us have it tough (o.k you sound as though you've had it REALLY tough) but thats what gives us the determination to make our lives happen.
Deal with your problems then off you go,
Dont forget to send us a postcard.

Answer 5

Nothing. You can pray, beg or sit and bawl. Life will do what it wants at its own time, nothing you do will change it or make it happen faster. So live life as if this is all there is. You like the new colors?