We met only 4 days ago. I was a bar with a friend (trying to get her a date :P). A guy approached me. I could tell he was watching, but I ignored. He walked to me and I tried telling him I didn't want to dance, but he pulled me out on the dancefloor. When we were finished dancing he asked to take me to dinner the next day. He picked me up, he was the perfect gentleman. We talked the next day and he said he wanted to see me before he went to work - couldn't happen so we made plans for today. Again he picked my up, was the perfect gentlman. When we were in the car, he leaned over to kiss me(peck). We made plans for Friday, and he was trying to make plans for Saturday. Things are moving so fast - and I'm so confused - it can't be possible for me to have feelings for a guy within a few days is it? And him for me???
2007-07-11 09:46:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I think it is possible you two share feelings but yes you two are moving rather fast. Try not to spend too much time together right away or you may get "burnt out" on each other..so to speak. Make other planns with other friends and try to put a little more space between each date! He sounds like a great guy though so I wish you two the best of luck together! =)
2007-07-11 10:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is probably an attraction of some sort. If you feel you are moving to fast, tell him. It is best to be honest and communicate upfront.
You can tell him you would like to get to know him as friends first. If you don't want a boyfriend - girlfriend relationship with him, tell him. I feel it is best to be friends first. You really do not know that person at all. You can be friends first and see if you would like to date him. If you like him and want to start a one on one relationship with him after that, then become boyfriend and girlfriend.
Be honest with him. If he is scaring you, tell him. He does seem to be sort of ......... pushy. Tell him One day at a time. Make plans with your friends too. Never not do something with someone else because he is pushing you to do something with him. I think at first, once a week or two meeting as friends first. You can talk on the phone more than that IF you desire. Be cautious. You never know if he is a weirdo or he may turn out to be the one for you. Go slow. Never never never let him push you into doing something You are honestly not ready for. You can tell him you appreciate him being a perfect gentleman and you would like to take things slowly. Friends first, then date, then girlfriend/boyfriend, if it leads to that for the both of you.
2007-07-11 09:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself - things are moving so fast - sounds like too fast if you don't even know how you feel about him. And, if you don't know how you feel, then you should not be worried yet if he wants a relationship. I bet his version of what he wants is different than yours. It's easy to get upswept by all the attention, but some girls get in trouble that way. Tell him to take it easy, and tell him that you're not sure if YOU want a relationship now. See if he sticks around, and you'll have your answer and your self respect!!
2007-07-11 09:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he is in a hurry.
Go out with him and have fun. But don't do more than you are comfortable with. Definately take time to get to know things about him.
Do not rush out and marry him.
And yes, you could have feelings for him or you could be taken in by his persistance. TRead carefully.
2007-07-11 09:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stephanie F took the words right out of my mouth!!! Except she has a longer version =) Great answer
2007-07-11 10:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Joyous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u seeing him every other day - 2 days ??? U met the dude 4 days ago
2007-07-11 09:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?
BUT - he's laying it on pretty thick. Beware.
2007-07-11 09:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋