Lately may baby has been really good he'll just stay in his crib most of the day with his moblie on and he seems fine. So it gives me a break but now i hardly give him attention and hold him. Should i feel bad about that? It's just im a first time mom and i like having a break once in a while.Thanks
2007-07-11 09:13:45 · 16 answers · asked by jennifer c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
First of all I do really love my son, and i love being a mom. I didnt think it was so wrong for me have a break once in awhile, after all i take care of him day and night.
2007-07-11 09:23:59 · update #1
Once in awhile is fine. Your baby needs to learn how to amuse himself. However, if you need more breaks, invite friends and family over to play with the baby, so you don't feel overwhelmed and can get some things done.
2007-07-11 09:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well once in a while like maybe 1 or 2 times here and there, but your baby needs lots of attention. I really know what you mean though< i have a 3 month old, it is so hard to get anything done, I know I know, thats life of having a baby but you always need a break, Do you get out? You also need to see if someone can watch baby for a few hours so you and your husband?? or other?? or just by yourself can have some time to your self, My baby is 3 months old and we just got out. We didnt realize how stressed we were untill we went out. Get some time alone for you, You are doing fine!! Just make sure you are not leaving baby in the crib alllll day long every day!!
2007-07-11 16:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jen L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he should be anywhere other than in your arms for "Most of the day"
Having a break is one thing....chucking him in the crib and leaving him there "most of the day" is something else.
You obviously already feel bad about it or else you wouldn't be asking.
I'm a first time mom too...I know you need a break...but try to limit the time he's in there alone. Or pop him in there and sit next to the crib and talk to him or sing to him or what ever...but don't just leave him in there.
He's a baby...not a goldfish.
You need to pay him attention and stimulate his mind. It's part of the job.
2007-07-11 16:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend the same thing if her child is content she doesnt really bother with him
and i was the mom who was always holding the baby even when the baby was sleeping i remember one day my child was asleep for like 2 hours on me lol and my mom was like are u ever gonna put the baby down
(my child was real sick when my child was little so i never wnated to put the baby down)
but honestly everyones different i am a person that holds the baby all the time and my friend isnt
everyone is different
as long as the child is healthy and happy i dont think anyone has the rigth way to do it lol
congrats abd best of luck :)
2007-07-11 20:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll go through a lot of different phases with your child. As long as you love your baby & you know your baby is safe & taken care of, it's ok to take a break for yourself. The better person you are (by taking care of youself) the better you will raise your child
2007-07-11 16:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say split the difference. Put him in a boucy seat or on a blanket out in the living room with you. He'll probably be just as happy, you still get a break and you don't have to feel bad about leaving him alone.
2007-07-11 16:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel bad having a kid is really hard you should rest when the baby is resting and when he wakes up you play with him. You mighty want him to be more social if he is old enough get togheter a play day so he can start having friends.
My advise is rest but dont ignore your baby.
2007-07-11 16:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by ninalatina_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother is a 24/7 job…. No cigarette brakes, no lunch brakes, nothing.
You need a few minutes for yourself, especially if you have “the big baby” to take care later in the night.
Have better quality time with your baby, so you don’t feel guilty those minutes that you have for yourself
2007-07-11 16:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by sara76c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's important for the child to bond with you especially in the first year. Hold him as much as possible, allowing yourself breaks in between.
2007-07-11 16:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by sum4182girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For how long is he in there?
Once in awhile is fine. But NOT most of the day.
He needs to bond to you and learn how to do new things.
Babies need to be held! It gives them security and love.
Honestly hun, it sounds like you might have postpartum depression.
I couldn't keep my hands off of my babies.
2007-07-11 16:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋