Alright this is going to sound very unrealistic to a lot of you out there, and im pretty sure im going to get scolded for this from quite a few of you, but I can not find a helpful answer from anyone in my life because they are all too biased on one side or the other with this situation.
So my issue is this: I am under 18, and have been off and on with a person who has recently turned 21 since around January. Due to the age issues we have decided to remain seperate in terms of reffering to ourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend. I have never been in love before him, and I believe I could spend my entire life with him, as does he with me. Our parents don't know about us. About two weeks ago he found out that he is only going to live for a maximum of 5 years- I am completely devastated. I want to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. I don't know if I should tell my parents or not. Marry when im 18 or not? I am so confused and head over heals in love. Help? Advice?
2007-07-11 09:09:12 · 3 answers · asked by McCall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At 18, I think you're a little too young to be getting married. Even taking into consideration that your boyfriend may only live for 5 years. I've known of people that have been given 2 weeks to live, and they've lived years beyond it.
To marriage I'd say no. I understand your situation as I'm in a similar situation myself (although not as strained for time). The decision of course is yours. It is your life.
Remember, time is important as it's something you can't replace. Spend your time wisely.
I recommend that you ask your parents about it as well. Parents seem to have a knack for questions like this.
2007-07-12 21:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i think you should talk to your parents (not about marrying him, about the situation, and that's assuming you have a good enough relationship with them). secondly how long have you known this person, because marriage isn't something you can just jump into and even if he only has five years, a lot can happen in that time. you shouldn't worry about marrying him, you should just enjoy the time you have left with him ( assuming you'll haven't been together long). but still the choice is yours and you should talk to someone who know both you and is older to help you'll through it
2007-07-11 09:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-02 05:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋