I have this friend, and she decides that her boyfriend is more important to her than keeping her friends. When not a year later he treats her like he owns her and now she has no friends. So because he doesn't like me i'm a nice girl and willing to be friends with both of them,she isn't allowed to talk to me, hang out with me or answer my emails. I'm gave up about 6 months ago trying to talk to her but i just think that its pathetic what people can do to you to change who you are and how you think., i just find it hard to understand how a strong person like my friend or shall i say ex friend can let other people control them?
why do people let themselves be walked all over.? How can you be happy when you only spend time with one person who doesn't respect you enough to walk by you when your out in public but leads you like a master?
Its completely unfair that i can not talk to my friend. I guess she wasn't much of a friend to begin with.
2007-07-11 08:29:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's pathetic...their relationship will most likely not last anyway. In a relationship if there is a controlling person, most of the time something bad is bound to happen. and if he's embarressed to be around her in public then forget him, he's a worthless bf.
Good luck
2007-07-11 08:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is weird because I'm in the same situation pretty much. My best friend has this boyfriend too who is so insanely controlling and she chooses him over me all the time!
I think it's pathetic that some women think guys are more important than friendship. Guys come and go but friends will be there forever.
If your friend and her guy ever break up and she tries to be your friend again, tell her to piss off and that you don't need her. She'll be sorry that she lost you in the long run.
2007-07-18 02:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it happen all the time, Your friend done have some good sex, and she done lost mine. Her boyfriend is a controlling person, and he got her where he want her to be. When it comes to you being her friend, he stop that because he afraid you will tell her things about him. Your friend is very weak individual, which you say she was strong at one time, but now she is a puppet. When he get tried of her and don't want her anymore, she will come to you with tears and a long story.
2007-07-19 07:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its that she doesn't care bout u. She is was missing sum1 or something in her life. She probably feels like he fills that empty space. Maybe her dad wasn't there for her physically or emotionally. Thats where the control part comes in. Dint give up on her b-cuz she is going to need you. Even if it takes years and a 'lil bit of pain don't turn ur back. U'll be a true friend. That will make her realize what she had/has, what she missed and what she has to make up for.
2007-07-19 02:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by hip-notizin' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got caught by the magic stik! At least she/he thinks its magic. I'll keep it real from a woman's point of view he got her scarred shitless of him. He broke her down - and there is nothing you can do about it. She will soon realize that he is not the one for her - hope its not too late. Its very sad that women go through this **** not realizing that they DO NOT HAVE TO. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. I had a friend like that and girfriend I got so tired of her dissing me for him - I mean like diss me cold - especially on my birthday - ooooooooooooo u know i was pissed off!! I cursed him so bad that he did not allow her to be my friend anymore- after 10 years of friendship - and you know what else - I dared him to act a fool with me cause I was so pissed I would have whipped his *** my damn self! This is the same friend that would snap on someone in a heart beat and did not play that **** at all! Unbelievable. But you know what I just found out about her, she is so miserable and trying to get in touch with me - and you know what the good thing is - im a good a person and I will talk to her, but believe me I will tell her about herself. Sorry i got caught up in that - but that makes me sooooo mad! Those type of men are truly punks to their hearts. They get off on that type of stuff cause they can't do it to no one else - he is a control freak! Does she have any brothers or other sisters that will whip his ***? - Damn!
2007-07-17 09:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by spreetray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 09:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by vallee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has happened to me before. And I found out in the end, that my friend wasn't much of a friend.
But, then at the end..she and her boyfriend started trash talking me and spreading rumors around the school!
-And then when her and her boyfriend broke up, she wanted me as a friend again! But, I told her that I wasn't gonna be her friend because of all the mean and rotten things she said about me.
(((AND EVERYTHING SHE AND HER ex SAID WAS A LIE)))
But, she will wanna be your friend when they break up!
2007-07-18 18:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by ~Army Girlfriend~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh gosh this is a really interesting question becuase my ex friend chose a guy over us and to me that was just wrong the way she did us because b4 she met this guy wheich happened to b my ex she was the type of person who wud never do that but i find out that was wrong and our situation is a lil bit off..your friend actually loves they guy and is with her..only reason y he doesnt want u around her is so that she wont leave him gurl this a dangerous situation and there is nothing u can do because your friend chooses to put herself in that situation and isnt allowwing u to help her it doesnt matter what she cud of found a way to calll u but she isnt trying so to me in my understanding just leave her and one day she;ll realize what she is doing was totallly wrong especially to u becus u are a good friend for her to act that way toward u she justs believes she is in luv and he wants to run her life so let it be it but just in case anything bad happens to her dont leave her side as in gve up hope i kno how u feel and im sorry bout that
also your friend has low self-esteem ..she thinks she is in love which is not true love she needs seroius help .usually ppl in her situation they end up being abused and alomst death
2007-07-11 08:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel very srry 4 u='(u should talk 2 her bf ask him y he treats ur friend or ex friend like his salve then e-mail ur olf friend & tell her "if u get this=(i want u 2 no i would be ur bf & ur friend but i c u dont want 2 b my friend anymore i treated u better i new u better i thought we were best friend,doesnt any of this count 4 anything
love,
a friend who will always b there 4 her friends"
try it mayb make a new e-mail address & send it from there
2007-07-19 00:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A g/f or a b/f shouldn't even try. If they dilike that person they only need to let you know so you don't have to wonder why they never want them around but not so they can push them out of your life thats just wrong.
2007-07-18 05:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋