What about for a married man to be friends with a single woman?
Can they just have a plutonic relationship or is that just not possible?
Do you think there is a double standard that makes it Ok for men and not women or vice versa?
2007-07-11 08:21:15 · 32 answers · asked by girlzmommy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's perfectly acceptable! And it can absolutely be platonic; most of my friends are married and I am not, so I really don't have a choice in the matter. It's not fair that a ceremony should force you to end your friendships.
People who have problems with these types of relationships (platonic relationships between men and women, marriage aside) tend to be insecure, jealous, and unable to trust their partner. Yes, there are times when the relationship is not platonic, but it's not fair to make generalizations about it.
2007-07-11 08:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not sure what a PLUTOnic relationship is. But platonic is possible in either situation there are times when people are just friends. I mean they could be your friends before you even got married. So I really don't see the problem with that. And today everything is a double standard. Which is pretty sad, but I say if you can have a guy or a woman as a good friend when you are married and they are single that isn't trying to hit on you like that or anything, then they are a great friend to have. Its very rare we keep the friends we used to know but if the few stick by us that we do have, then that is really great.
2007-07-11 08:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because you're married does not mean you cannot have a friendship with a member of the opposite sex. I've been married for 25 years and have several single male friends. As long as you're not out on a "date" with this friend and not with your mate, I think it's just fine. Life would get boring if you only had contact with your significant other. A double standard? Yep, I'm sure there are men who think it's just fine that they have a single female friend but wouldn't want their mate to have a single male friend. Too controlling, I guess.
2007-07-11 08:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Coming from a married woman's point of view, I don't think that it is right for a married woman to be friends with another man as this usually leads to something not always but sometimes. As for a husband being friends with another woman I also don't think that this is a good idea. This usually ends up with something more than "friendship". But that is just my opinion.
2007-07-11 08:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by just livin' 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There's no double standard. Being friends while at meetings, school, church, work is one thing. But when it creeps outside of that and looks like a date to not only the spouse but the rest of the world...then you have to back off.
I had a friend once through a business relationship. I got divorced from my wife and maried the business relationship.
If there are problems in the marriage, a person might seek comfort elsewhere. And if it is readily available with a friend of the opposite sex. ..watch out.
2007-07-11 08:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There really is not set standard as to what is right or wrong. It only matters what the spouse/significant other thinks. So long as he/she is comfortable with the situation it shouldn't make a difference what anyone else thinks because men and women can simply be friends.
2007-07-11 08:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not a double standard. It's not ok for me and it's not ok for my wife.
Put yourself in your spouse's shoes. It's fine to have friends at work, but if you're chatting on the phone with the "platonic" friends or going out to lunch or drinks with them one on one and you're married or in a relationship, that's highly inappropriate.
2007-07-11 08:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, it should be the same for both. I think friendships are fine, but they should not be secretive in any way, nor involve much on-on-one time together, just out of respect for spouse. Ideally the friend would be a friend to the couple and they can all spend time together.
2007-07-11 08:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is only OK if the single opposite sex freind is ugly. then you will not fall in love and cheat. If the are really ugly, you can be there true best friend.
Also, if he truly was plutonic, he would give radiation poisining. LOL
2007-07-11 09:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's possible for anyone married to be "friends" with a single person of the opposite sex.
2007-07-11 08:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋