I found pictures of my father and another man dressed in woman's lingerie. They were in a hotel room wearing pink bunny ears and my father had on a pink nightie and the other guy had on a pink bra? Should I say anything to him? He left them out in the open at his house when he knew I was coming up to visit, I wasn't snooping. Is he trying to tell me something?
2007-07-11 07:59:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There were sex toys in the pic too, not fist shaped tho.
2007-07-11 08:03:45 · update #1
He was 54. it was a recent pic.
2007-07-11 08:04:32 · update #2
LadyWrath: Kind of he left sexually explicit pics out on the coffee table know me and my kids were coming over for dinner. If it was your father wouldnt you say something?
2007-07-11 08:06:47 · update #3
I would, maybe just bring up the topic gently and see where it goes. He may be gay and afraid to tell, but really wants to. Or he likes womens clothing, or it was a really wild party. Either way, be nice about it, and he'll probably be honest about it.
2007-07-11 08:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
My ex had the same-about- situation...He father was trying to tell him and when his father told him-cause my ex was avoiding the hole situation- after a big fight, he never talked him again...It's been 3 years now...His father is 48!
My opinion??He is trying to talk you, but think a lot before opening a talk like that...Be sure that you can accept as he is!
If you can't, I think it is better for you not to discuss anything for the pics..
2007-07-19 06:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might have been what is known as a Freudian slip: unconsciously, he wanted you to know. If it was deliberate, I'm sure he wouldn't have consciously left the pictures where your kids could see them.
Sure, let him know that you saw the pictures, if just to remind him that he shouldn't leave such things around where your kids might get hold of them. Just say it's OK, that you still love him just as much. Then if he wants to talk about it, that's up to him.
2007-07-11 08:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it was not for a fund raiser or something like that?My friend dressed as a women and raised $2.000 for the american cancer society called relay for life. We even took pictures of him dressed as a women.This event was for a good cause and someone in need will benefit from our great time.Do not jump the gun.If your father is gay he would not spill his identity in this manner.
2007-07-16 17:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Billy T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can bring it up to him. Say something like " so, I saw those pictures of you and that other guy wearing women's lingerie, what is that all about?" Don't be hard on him when asking him about this and see what he says.
2007-07-11 08:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah ohh most definitely he's trying to tell you something sweetie he's trying to tell you that either he is a drag queen that likes to dress up in women clothings or he's probably trying to tell you that he is a gay transsexual that likes me.lol hay it happens you know. well take it easy * good luck
2007-07-18 11:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by shame on them 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to guess it was accidental. I suggest just forgetting about it unless it comes up again.
2007-07-11 08:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe... we aren't mind readers...say something to him if you'd like... but is it really necessary?
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I would say something only if my kids happen to see the picture. if not... he's free to leave what ever he wants on his table. My dad leaves out porn and I could honestly care less. but we're different so how you handle this situation is ultimately up to you.
2007-07-11 08:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Infamous Twit 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he was...try making hints like...
say
"Hey, I was watching this special on men who...
Ok, there's no way to hint...
Just say "was this a joke or should we talk?" While holding the picture!
2007-07-11 08:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He may be one of these men who like to wear women's clothes. They are not gay, just sick. He may want to tell you so I would give him a chance. Just ask him if there's is anything he would like to talk about. He may volunteer and he may not.
This might have been a joke or prank too. If he belongs to one of those men's clubs, like the Shriners, they do wild things when they get together.
2007-07-11 08:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by dreamdress2 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋