I am unsatisfied with my life. I am a mail courier and dislike my job. I feel unwanted at home. i love spending time with my fiancee and it is the only time i feel loved and appreciated. i am about to start back to college after a time out. I am going to be 21 in sept. I feel like my parents do not want me to move out. I know it will be financially straining but I think I am ready. Im ready to get away from this town. Do you think they'll hate me for moving a town away?
2007-07-11 07:48:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Doestrueloveexist,
I am sorry you are feeling unsatisfied and unloved. May I point out that you are about to change all that when you re-enter college? You will be busy and working toward a worthy goal. GOOD FOR YOU!! Getting back into school is never a wasted effort. You have made an adult decision to further your knowledge. Now, make another wise decision in regard to your boyfriend and your parents.
Your parents still love you. They have all along. Never doubt it, sweetie. You are definitely NOT unloved. Look for the little tell-tale signs of that love and you will find them all over the place....right down to your parents not wanting you to move out. They like having your sweet, smiling face where they can see it every day. You are taking your parents for granted just a little bit.
Now, as to the boyfriend. Hon, you cannot hang such a weight on him. He is not perfect. He is young like you. He is feeling his way along in life, as are you. He is not the only person in the world who loves you. I'm glad for you that you enjoy his company, but don't ever make him feel that it is his responsibility to see to it that you are happy and feeling loved. You must be able to provide those feelings for yourself. Then, you will know you are a worthy of love and are capable of giving love to others and getting love for yourself.
Life is ever changing. Make certain, darlin', that you are able to change with the new experiences and demands of life. Here's a new heads up for you, too: Life never, ever ceases those demands on you. So, prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Stay close to God, you will call on Him often.
Hugs, Sweetie. Hope you just shine in college!! :)
2007-07-11 08:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm 18 now, and I moved out when I was 17 to three town away, and I moved in with a 28 year old! 96 miles away from my parents. They are family, they are forced to love you for the decisions you make! That's the parents job. If they are good parents, they will let you go and be happy.
2007-07-11 14:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they won't hate you. But they will worry. Make sure that you know what your getting yourself into financially. You may be ready emotionally to move out, and you may be mature enough, but if you are "straining" financially, you will end up in a load of debt, and that's likely what concerns your parents so much. You're young and have plenty of time to move out yet....enjoy living rent free for a bit more. I moved out when I turned 21 (I'm 24 now) and I can't tell you how much I miss the carefree days at Mom and Dad's
2007-07-11 14:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well look at the pros and cons of both staying home and moving out.
If you move out - more independence, you make your own decisions, starting your life, you have to work your *** off to pay the bills, you have to worry about food costs and stuff, you need enough money to buy furniture..etc, and if you are going back to college then you have to work AND study at the same time which is VERY hard but if you rly want to , you can manage. Plus I think you can talk to your parents about finally starting your life and tell them to be proud that you want to stand up on your own 2 feet.
If you stay home- You dont have to worry about paying bills, no food cost worries caz parents do all that stuff, more time to hang out with friends since you dont have to concentrate on work alot, and more time to study and focus on college, bad part is that you have no privacy, you dont make your own decisions most of the time because you still live with your parents, and theres no satisfaction of life because you havent rly started living on your own.
They both have their ups and downs. If i were u i would probably go to a college that has dorms and live on campus. I would also ask my parents to help me pay tuition. This way you dont work as much, dont rly have to worry about rent, have time to study, and still have privacy.
Hope I Helped
2007-07-11 15:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only person who can change your life and make it an extra ordinary one is yourself. Parent's love their children so dearly that its difficult to see someone who has been part of your life for 21 years leave, but, at the end of the day, your parents are going to want what's best for you. Eventually every bird needs to fly. it will be hard but i do think that they will except it. They love you regardless and I am sure they want to see you happy and successful. It is your life, don't not do something because you're afraid of disappointing others because you might end up disappointing only yourself for not having the courage to to take that big step
2007-07-11 15:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents won't hate you for moving out. It may be a little hard to accept at first, but I am sure they will understand that you need to start a life of your own. Just keep reminding them that you love them and you will visit often. In time they will adjust. Good Luck
2007-07-11 14:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by American Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should value your happiness over anything else. Plus, if you are 21, its time to move out. They can't expect you to live with them forever. Living on your own will teach you a lot more about the world than living with your parents ever can.
2007-07-11 14:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by anselina1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know as soon as I'm ready financially I am moving out. You are 21 and you can make your own decisions. As long as you call often and make frequent visits you are doing the right thing
2007-07-11 14:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by tayshaunlookalike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur parents will never hate u. cause well, they're ur parents. Just explain to them that u r older now and it's time for u to make ur own desisons and they shouldn't stop u fro what u want to do with ur life they should always support u. it's not like ur moving out of the country so they should freak out really.
2007-07-11 15:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to worry about you. Nobody else will, bottom line. If you are unhappy, change. You only have one life, how do want to live it? Your parents have each other, you are too old to be living with them anyways, they should want you to try to succeed. You will feel so much better when you take care of yourself. Everything is so much better when is is 100% yours. Even the food you cook, in your kitchen, in the house you pay to live in, with the job you got tastes better. I know it sounds crazy but you will see what I mean.
2007-07-11 14:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Shashay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋