How would you deal with this ????

Question

I was watching a programme today that said that a lady married the son of Osama Bin Laden (he doesn't believe that what his father does it right and has not seen his father for years)!!!! What I'm trying to get at is...does the sins of the father really matter. If a person's direct family member was a criminal would it bother you, or would you end it ??

When thinking of crime think worse case

Answer 1

In general, no, the sins of the father shouldn't be applied to the child. If I knew the guy to be a good man, and he had one criminal/evil family member, that I would be fine with.

But this case is slightly different, because crime is the family business, and that's much harder to escape. Any mob/mafia/terrorist leader naturally involves his family in the business, because they are usually the only people he can trust, the only people with a vested interest in keeping him in power. Even if the female or younger members of the family are kept largely innocent of the business, they are still prime targets for kidnapping or extortion, simply because they provide such good leverage. So I'd be more reluctant to date the son of Osama bin Laden, Al Capone, or the Godfather, because he would never really be free of his father's world.

Answer 2

If I started dating the person and later found that they had a family member that was a criminal it wouldn't bother me. If I new before hand I don't think that I would bother getting involved. If it was the son of Osama Bin Laden though I would be a little worried that he was marrying me just to get into the country and bomb it. I would class a terrorist organisation a little higher than a petty shoplifter.

Answer 3

I saw this story too. I think that its ok to be in a relationship with someone who has a family member with a criminal record, as after all not all family members would behave the same way. However I do have a problem with the son of Bin Laden coming to live in the UK with his bride. Many women have been duped into marriage so that the men can gain entry into another counrty, and this guy could be dangerous. I'm not saying he is, but he would need to agree to be closely monitered as a UK resident.

Answer 4

Osama Bin Laden aside -- i would like to think that if i met a great guy his family wouldnt be a problem but that isn't how the real world works. When you marry someone, you marry into the family -- and if you believe in family unity- then that family is your family too.

Answer 5

Of course there would always be thought in the back of my mind because although what his father did was wrong if I was him I would never sie against my father but. He is a complete different person on him own. Although they share the same blood line He still deserves and chance. I would give him the benefit if the doubt. You can't dicipline a man for his fathers sins.

Answer 6

No because his son is a person of his own, not his father. You can be completely different to your parent, it is only ever the smaller things you inherit (being impatient, liking Marmite etc). Your morals can be completely different. So the women who married that horrible man's son may have been dubious about him at first, before seeing the person he really is shine through his father's wrong-doings. If I really loved someone, i would love them, not be thinking about what their family has done, so no, it wouldn't bother me.

Answer 7

It also said his father had 10 children to his mother, and 10 to his second wife. I wonder how he had time to do anything else.
Also the son was already married with a child, so why did that British woman get married, an already married man. CRAZY

Answer 8

what matter is how he was raised as a young child. when push comes to shove we always revert back to childhood lessons. its the age where we were the most impressionable and our brains were like sponges. that's why ppl look so closely at up bring.

For instance: My ex ex bf's parents were embezzling. Both got caught both went to jail. but they didn't start this until he was 16 or so....his up bring was that of "good stock" for lack of a better word. he was instilled with good morals, values, and family life. he's parents starting doing that out of desperation but the kids didn't know until it was too late. his parents going to jail didn't affect him in a negative way...if anything it affected him in a positive way. he was embarrassed for what his parents did and strives everyday to be different.

so to answer your question...it depends on the individual and exactly what belief system they were brought in originally. I can guarantee u this...Bin Laden's child was brought as boy with his beliefs. even if he claims to be reformed...i wouldn't trust him further than i can through him. i have a really good friend who is Muslim he's from Iran..came here when he was 11. they literally beat their belief system in the schools into their children. that's psychological damage and brainwashing......need i say more.

Answer 9

I see where you are coming from, but if I found out my own son was a criminal or a terrorist, I would turn him in: you can be certain of this. I can only stick up for you insofar you do things right. However, this is not the case (is it?), so I would not be bothered. All of that that Jesus died on the cross to redeem humans from sin is just crap to me.

Answer 10

I guess it would depend on what the crime was and how you'd feel about it. Sometimes you would have to cut a relationship because of your own sanity and health and wellness. If another person such as family isn't in a place to accept and change what they've done (if it's wrong) then sometimes you would have to step back and wait for them to accept it and change...some people aren't willing to change and therefore, we need to cut ties.