Hello, I have four kids ages 15, 10, 10,and 7 and recently divorced. Lately for the past few months, hes been acting very strange, a few weeks ago he pushed me agiant the wall, today he started repeatingly slapping me and punched me. I noticed he was in a bad mood, so I asked whats wrong. He siad, "leave me the F alone", I said watch your language. He slapped and punched me about 4 or 5 times. ans he said, shut up b**.
I cried so long, it happened a few hours ago.
He doesn't wnat me to tell his father because he said he doesn't wnat to get spankd or beat. I just found out that his father lives around my neighborhood when he abandoned us several years ago.
2007-07-11 07:18:24 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You call the cops and have him arrested for domestic violence.
2007-07-11 07:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 12⤊ 2⤋
First off, his father needs to know. You really need to find help for him. If he is doing this to you aren't you afraid that he will beat his girlfriend or his wife (if he is able to get a wife he might be in and out of jail) I know that you want his respect and slapping you is not acceptable. If you can not get him under control try going to a therapist. Maybe you could even talk to the police for advice (I am sure they deal with this all the time. If my son did that to me he would be left with nothing in his room except for a pillow and a blanket...no bed, no tv/computer, nothing not even a bedroom door. If that did not work I would pay to have an ankle bracelet put on him like he is on house arrest. You have 3 other children besides him and they are going to pick up on it and possibly do the same thing. If all else fails (and as hard as it would be) give custody to the father, like I said there are 3 other children you have to worry about. I hope this helps you and I seriously do not want to hurt your feelings. PLEASE GET HELP FOR HIM NOW!!!!
2007-07-11 11:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT attemp to hit him, you won't win.
This, I know is the worse advise You Think I can give you but send him to live with his dad. He won't be pushing or slapping him and maybe he'll agree to getting some help for that misdirected anger. If he can't live with his dad, you absolutely need to tell dad. The reason we don't discipline our kids is because WE don't want to feel badly. Does that make sense? If you love him take the temp hate from him & give discipline and he'll still love you no matter what!! Call the police the next time he does it, but wait, what if he happened to have a knife in his hand and stabbed you instead?! Yes, it can happen. Yes it can.
Your other kids will do the same, I guarantee you. Then you'll have 4 kids beating you up. Calling police will be the hardest thing you do for you and the best for your son. He's hurting and taking it out on you. I doubt if he'll go to counseling on his own and I don't think he'll talk to you. Get his dad involved before his actions, due to his pain, transfers negatively to your other kids!!.....if u wanna talk email me, I wanna help u.
2007-07-11 07:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by tink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you have to make it clear that it is not ok to hit someone. if you put up with his behaviour it will get only worse. He will try to hurt other people too and they wont think twice about hurting him back.
It sounds to me that he learned this behaviour from his father. Its ok to hit people i mean.
you need to call the police and report this issue. I know its hard but this is for his own best interest. Ask the officers to scare him alittle by showing him the possible consequences of his actions.
In the mean time you need to take him to see a councillor. I think he have some isssues that he needs to work out.
Go to his father and tell him that he needs to explain to his son why he had abondoned him. This will bring some closure to his feelings.
Tell your son how much you love him in the mean time and be there for him. If he's angry then stay away from him. If he's crying then hold him.
You need to do something about his behaviour immedaiately though or he might really kill you. It sounds harsh but dont forget that we are living in an era where anything is possible. You need to do something.
You can also try sending him away to stay with a more objective and capable relatve. in this sense the proper descipline can be given without any misjudgement.
You should also surround ypurself with supportive friends and family. Tell the ones that you trust about it and ask them for help.
If youre an atheist then i wish you all the best but if you are not then,
You might need to pray a bit more as this is serious business.
God bless
2007-07-11 07:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You almost don't even sound like a parent, judging your some of your spelling, your name asking to be added to friends list, and what you didn't do in that situation.
Teenagers go through drastic emotional and physical changes, but this is just too much. You should have instinctively known to call the police or at least tell someone. Put your foot down. I think this question was made up, actually.
2007-07-12 11:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by lonelioness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow....well has your son misbehaved often? did he cuss in front of you before you got devorced? It is understandable for him to be upset about the divorce. but i think him using language like that towards you already crossed the line. The second he laid a hand on you he went way beyond the line! He doesnt see you as an authority figure anymore for some reason. So you have to bring someone who IS an authority figure into the picture, whether that be the cops, his father, a grand parent, uncle, teacher, friend, anyone that you know that could get to him. Have someone that you trust, other than you, talk to him.
2007-07-11 07:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get him some help. First of all, you should let him know that YOU ARE THE BOSS. Not him. He has no right to push you around. You're the parent. Also, get him some help. Take him to see a psychiatrist. Also, don't be a pushover parent. If you cry in front of him, he'll think that he can get what he wants that way, and he will start doing it repeatedly.
2007-07-11 07:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You are the parent and you let your 15 year old slap you around and call you out of your name? Excuse me but what the f*ck is your problem! Think about this if you let him slap you around now, how do you think that will affect his future, how he will treat women, and most importantly you. If i would have ever, in my black life tried to raise my hand to slap my mom are call her a ***** she would have killed me. Shot me right on the spot. I don't care how much bigger than my mom i am, she still reminds me who is the boss. First of all, YES you need to get in contact with his father and let him know whats going on. Regardless of if he is afraid of getting beat, which he really does need his @ss beat for that. He might be upset because of the divorce, or it could be something else. But he really needs to spend time with his father. If you let your son just parade over your house and keep treating you like that, eventually it will get worse and worse up to the point that all you can do is call the police before he kills you. But the next time he tries that, you need to have a knife on you (a big knife). May sound violent but i don't really give a sh!t. Just pull the knife out when he tries to hit you and take control back.
2007-07-11 08:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
YOU are the mother, not him. YOU decide if you shut up or not. HE should be slapped right back and told firmly how things work(know one slaps the mother)IF you have to, lock food to yourself and the other kids. Tell him until he has a gentle attitude. If he treatens to call the police, tell him you'll call for him. Just go with the flow, tell the truth if the police do come. Who are they going to believe?, a 15 year-old or an adult.
2007-07-11 15:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by chevroletgirl00 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drive him to a military school, you would be doing what's best for you, your other children, & him. You don't want him doing that to his siblings, or to his future wife & kids one day. You don't want his other siblings to think that that kind of behavior is acceptable & he needs to be taught how to act like a man. It may seem like a harsh move but at the rate he's going, military school is a much better option than prison & with this type of behavior it's where he's headed. You may want to find a good circle of friends or a support group for yourself. My hat goes off to you because it sounds hard enough for you without the added stress & pain of this situation with your son.
2007-07-11 15:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone. Eventhough your son doesn't want you to tell his father you need to because you can't handle this yourself or tell someone you trust so they can find your son the help he needs to stop him from hitting you! If someone does find out that he is hitting you they might call the cops and he might go to jail but that might not be such a bad idea it would be a way for him to get help. Just talk to someone who can find you some help.I wish you all the luck in the world during this trying time.
2007-07-11 08:33:28 · answer #11 · answered by dragonflygurl_32 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋