a 40year-old man who never married or had kids, but has travelled the world. Is he a winner or a loser?
2007-07-11 07:05:12 · 22 answers · asked by Super Star 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
genuinely he is a nice person. A good listener and a light drinker. He just didn't want to be tied down to marriage.
2007-07-11 07:20:06 · update #1
I say he is a winner.......maybe now he is ready for that....to many people jump into getting married and having kids when they are not ready....I think that is one reason we have so many divorces
2007-07-11 07:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has never been married or has no kids does not make somone a loser. That is a view society has placed on us. That someone HAS to be married to be successful. Maybe in the 1800s that would be true but seriously this is the 21st century. A lot of people are not having kids and not getting married or getting married at a old age. Just because traditionally most people get married does not make it the correct thing to do.
Being a winner is not determined by what and who you have around you but how content you are with the way you are lving.
2007-07-11 07:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably never married because he didn't have to marry for sex and never met the right woman. I wouldn't hold that against anyone. He traveled the world? So? That doesn't figure into his being a winner or loser either. Tell me if he is decent, honest and law abiding but man enough to stand up for himself and others he wants to protect, if he doesn't drink too much, if he is caring and genuinely feeling and considerate of others and I can answer you. Those are the things I would want to know before I declared him either winner or loser.
2007-07-11 07:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Robert P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's living the life he's always dreamed of, he's a winner. Success means different things to different people. Having kids and getting married by a certain age, is definitely not something everyone wants or even has to do.
2007-07-11 07:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children or being married does not make you any better or worse of a person. He has seen the world and done what he has wanted to do, how can you fault him for that? He is a winner.
2007-07-11 07:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Reece Judicata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was only that simple?
could he have chosen to never have a wife and kids because he wanted to travel the world? in which case no hes not a looser hes a man with goals and has the fortitude to achieve them, that's a winner,
did he travel the world trying to meet women he talked to on line that ended up dumping him once they got to know the real man behind the screen? then hes a big time looser
2007-07-11 07:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends is he happy or not? if he's happy with his life acomplishments than i would say he's a winner, if he isn't happy than it would be considered a waste of time, but i wouldn't necessarily call him a loser, just someone who enjoys life by himself. You dont need a wife or children to define what makes you happy. You will be happy married and with children but its only what you put into it that makes marriage life and children happy, if your not willing to put forth the effort and just feel like getting married because your missing out on something than i say thats crazy. Sometimes marriage and family life isn't for everyone and thats not bad, its just not for them.
2007-07-11 07:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by You asked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, never been married is prolly better than divorced, at least. He's not automatically a loser....you'd have to get to know him.....if he's not married b/c he's never wanted to be "tied down" to one person, then that's a red flag. But, if he just never found someone, or put his career first until now, that's a diff story.
every person's different.
If he still lives w/ his parents, though, lol! Run away!
2007-07-11 07:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of depends on what you mean by "married". If he was in several live-in relationships that each lasted more than a few years, I would say he is ok. If he's been basically uncommitted the entire time, I'd say he has issues and should be avoided.
2007-07-11 08:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether he sucks at being a person?!
You can travel the world 10 times and over but if you are a rotten person it doesn't mean a thing.
Theres a reason why you haven't married..hmmmm?!
2007-07-11 07:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by poison_angel32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋