Doe scheating on him make the pain go away?
2007-07-11 06:24:28 · 24 answers · asked by kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it doesn't. It only makes you as low as he is and you will only end up feeling worse. The best thing would either be marriage counseling or divorce.
2007-07-11 06:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not. All it would do is take away his guilt about cheating on you. He will just think: "she did it too so I am ok."
Don't cheapen yourself by doing the same thing he did. You will lose respect for yourself. It isn't worth it. A taser up his butt would be a nice surprise though! If you kill him or divorce him, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to make the rest of his life miserable. That can really be a lot of fun. j/k lol Truthfully, being cheated on is very painful. However, some men do change as they mature. I would make sure that you are financially secure before kicking his lame a** to the curb. He took your trust and crammed it into the sewer. Take all his money and go have fun. Whatever you do, make sure you are not making your own life more miserable. Get what you deserve out of the disgusting dog. (no offense to dogs) He wants to play hardball? Give him a taste of what it's like to lose something. . . like everything he's worked for for the past whatever-how-many years. If you leave him, he will just go out and find someone else & have a grand ole time. Hit him in the wallet. That will hurt him worse than if you do something immoral. Now he owes you! Big time!
2007-07-11 13:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, cheating doesn't make the pain go away. It just hurts you more and in some cases it hurts the person you cheated with. The best thing to do is end the relationship. I know that sounds hard but that is the only way you are going to be happy. If you don't, then you are going to live your life wondering if he's cheating ( b/c trust is gone) and you are going to think that you are not good enough. No one needs that. Life is too short to be worried all of the time esp. in a situation like this. I'm sorry that this happened to you but you have got to get out of the relationship in order to heal from it.
2007-07-11 13:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kaila H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey - if you cheat on him it will only make you feel worse. At least you know you were honest with him. It hurts for a very long time and you never forget it. Even if you say you forgive him - it always comes back to haunt you. You may not think about it as often - but you always will. That's another reason why it will probably make it hard for you to stay - it makes you distrust him at all times. Good luck - I hope everything works the way you want it to.
2007-07-11 13:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Finding yourself and leaving a bad situation is best.
A lying man will not change....and your hurt will not lessen with a dishonest man.
Best to cut the rope and leave. The pain will be intense but the recovery is shorter and longer lasting than a wound that eats your heart our and eventually kills you.
Move. Find yourself. Pain will go away. Really.
2007-07-11 13:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what two wrongs dont make it right you have to be a better person i have been thoug the same thing and ifyou do it it just makes you feel good for that moment but after awhile you just feel like **** you need to hold you head up and show him that you are better then that find someone whos is going to love you and be honest from the start what is wores to love or never been loved one more thing the pain never gos away until you let go
2007-07-11 13:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by mirendaocasio@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. All cheating will do is create more problems for you. Because then you will have to deal with the pain he caused you AND the feelings of guilt from cheating (if you actually feel guilty and most people do). Then what happens if you become fond of the person you are cheating with? My point is you need to deal with the problems with your husband not add new ones.
2007-07-11 13:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it just makes you a lying cheater and an idiot.
Tolerating lies and deception for 6 yrs is 5 yrs and 364 days too long. Two wrongs don't make a right...why would anyone be foolish enough to create their own bad karma because someone else is treating them poorly?
Remove yourself from the poor treatment...don't join in it.
2007-07-11 13:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
cheating is no answer. But it might work. do you love him still? Leave him cause there is more men that are good for you out there. You dont need any man that cheats. He wont stop. Or you can have an open marrage and try to make things work.
2007-07-11 13:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by little bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating does not make the hurt go away,it only makes things worse and puts u to his lying level. ur better than that so just move on or get past the issues with your husband.
2007-07-11 13:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by pandorar12007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him and moving on to a bigger brighter happier future makes the pain go away. That and taking him for every little dime he's worth!
2007-07-11 13:29:01 · answer #11 · answered by 0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋