possible for us to be lovers, I am married but, I love having him in my life. He is interesting to talk with and funny as hell. How do I get past the sex to have a friendship with him. I haven't talked with him for 2 weeks because I told him I couldn't, because i wanted him. But, I want to get past the sex. Yes my sex life is GREAT with hubby and no hubby doesn't know about him.
2007-07-11 06:22:22 · 5 answers · asked by No Drama for this Queen 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your are all right on the money... I know I've ben told but god it is so exciting... I'm an old lady you guys (47) I have been with the same man for 27 years... I love my hubby but a girl just needs some excitement right?
2007-07-11 07:27:44 · update #1
*Sigh*...in heat again are we?
2007-07-11 06:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women...if you fear sex can and will get in the way of a 'friendship'..then this is a friendship you should NOT want. Your hubby not knowing says something as well. You are bound to have an affair if you continue TRYING to be friends. Tell the ex that you and he had your time together but its the past and needs to stay there. I would not continue the friendship. Wish him well and tell him to move on.
2007-07-11 06:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your name fits you because that's exactly what you will have if you continue to have this secret relationship with your ex. The first answerer was right. Before it gets out of control you need to nip it in the bud right now. Put your self in your hubby shoes; would you like it. Or if the tables were turned; would you be okay with that? Do the right thing. Because this is disrespectful to your self and your marriage.
2007-07-11 06:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by honeyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can lovers be friends? In your case, obviously not. You're still harboring feelings for the guy, and you're looking for a way to cheat. Right now you're looking at your monitor going "NO! I'm not! I just want to be friends!" No, you don't, or you wouldn't still be thinking of him sexually. This will not end well - you need to let it go. Keep your memories where they belong - in the past.
2007-07-11 06:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can still be friends. If you're still attracted to him though, I wouldn't or it could lead to a disaster for your marriage. I also wouldn't hide him from your hubby as that can turn into a disaster too.
2007-07-11 06:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋