Does absence make the heart grow fonder?

Question

or does it end up being the complete opposite?

Answer 1

For a while, then we forget

Answer 2

Obviously a hard question to answer and MANY opinions on it!

I say that absence does make the heart grow fonder.
BUT--
that doesn't mean the people will be back together.
Absence makes the mind IMAGINE things too and whether good or bad the REAL world and the imaginations and exaggerations of the mind are two different things entirely.
So, if a person is in love, and one moves away your heart can indeed grow fonder of them and your memories of them and pictures and letters sent to and from them can begin to mean very much to you. BUT it may become more of a romance relationship in your mind rather than in real life because without real contact on an ongoing basis the relationship will evolve and change naturally and usually it dissolves away if there is too much absence. But the memories and stuff will still be fond in your mind.after the initial pains of breakup. Years later, it will be a fond memory.

Answer 3

Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder.
For example, When i dont hear from this one special person all day, it makes me think of the person allot, wondering what that person is wondering.
Another example, If two people arent having sex, they are doing somthing else. like talking... maybe even thinking about having sex, wanting sex, but not having sex.
BUT for some ppl it does happen to be the complete opposite, becuase some people NEED attention and love and constant company.
Eventually, if your away from a person for a very long time, your memories will go to the ack of your mind, and you'll meet new people and have fun, but that would take a forever long time.
Abstinance can be a good thing, but it can be a bad thing, depending on the person.

Answer 4

Only when its true love! Otherwise absence can weaken your feelings! Being apart from your loved ones, can make you realise how much you miss, want and need them. Your sort of experiencing a trailer of what your life would be like without them. >> Therefore, the heart can grow fonder, and when you re-unite everything is 10x more special! Your feelings will become stronger.

Equally, being separated from that person or people can open you to a new light, one where you realise that you don't need, or want that person in your life. This second trailer can seem a lot more appealing and >> therefore this can weaken your feelings towards the person.

Regards

Answer 5

It depends on the duration of the absence, the percentage of your time spent together, and the intensity of the relationship at its current point.

There are definitely times when being apart from someone can ratchet up the level of desire to be together. However, if the absence continues for too long an extended period of time, it can turn to either intense pain (which our subconscious then automatically mitigates by reducing or even removing the cause of the pain, in this case, the fondness) or it can produce a sort of apathy or disinterest, as the absence carries on and on.

Human beings have an innate capacity to "deal with it", and if the "it" in this case is prolonged absence, or frequent absence, our subconscious brain will (without our choice or sometimes even knowledge) reduce our level of fondness. Though, at the same time, relatively short periodic absences can most definitely enhance our feelings, it helps to have a set time when the absence is known to be ending, then it becomes a sort of anticipation rather than an ordeal, and we all know how fun anticipation can be!

Answer 6

There are many important things in the world the value of which is often better realise by their absence. For instance, beauty by the absence of beauty, freedom in servitude, health in sickness, wealth in poverty, time when it is running short, and love when in perils, and company in isolation. Human heart yearns for things it wishes to find, or the things lost even if only momentarily; it longs to see what it loves. This is true that heart grows fonder in absence, as it is a being of discontent.

Answer 7

Absence usually makes the heart grow fonder of someone else

Answer 8

pliz those who have never felt it should not answer this question. Absence hurt, real hurt, it pains but if ur have real love for some one u can stand the absence. Bu for too long is dangerous the heart will look for something to hold on.

Answer 9

Look before you leap, but he who hesitates is lost.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight out of mind.

There is always an opposite.

Answer 10

When i don't see my partner for a while then the heart does grow fonder because i miss him. But on the other hand, if i know when to expect him and he's really late then i get concerned, worried and then mad. Same with the kids really.
"Where've you been? I've been worried sick!!"

Answer 11

I find that absence make the heart start looking for something closer.