How did you decide that you wanted to be married to your husband or wife?

Question

I am 30 years old, single and not in any serious relationship and haven't had one in over 5 years. I would like to get married but how will i know who is right for me because no one is perfect or exactly what i want. I am use to breaking up with men when things are not going good. I heard that you have to be in a relationship for a few years before you can make a decision to marry.

Answer 1

Well, first, most likely you will never find a man who is perfect or exactly what you want. I think many people have an unrealistic expectation of their mate or the person they want to marry, which is why so many marriages end in divorce. Instead of looking for the "perfect" mate, look for someone who has the qualities that are most important to you. I'm not saying you should settle, I'm just saying that if you are always breaking off relationships, you might want to look at how realistic your expectation is.

Answer 2

We are in love with each other and he wanted me to have his last name and be his wife and I wanted the same. We have been married for almost 3 years and are very happy together. We were only together for 4 months before we got married so I don't believe you have to be in a relationship for a few years before making the decision to marry. But, that doesn't mean it is a good idea for everyone to marry so quickly either. It depends on the couple and what they want and feel is best for them. I know people who date for years and then married for less time than they dated when they divorce. It is all about being with the person who is right for you. No one is perfect and as long as you try to find someone who is, you will never find the one for you.

Answer 3

My husband and I "get" each other. Many of his friends, upon meeting me for the first time (we did the long distance thing) had his best interests at heart and knew we were a good match. Every relationship has its ups and downs, the trick is to not throw in the towel when the first disagreement comes up. You have to decide which battles are most important, because all relationships have those, too. Take the list you made in high school of what you want in a guy, or write one now, and put down everything. Hair color, height, weight, job, kids, sense of humor, everything. Then rip it up. Some of the things that were important then -- looks, height, whatever -- aren't important and only stop you from getting to know a person who will be a better match.

Answer 4

that isn't true for everyone. My husband proposed when we were together for nine months. And we got married when we were together a year and eleven months to the day. The month after our wedding we celebrated our two year anniversary.

I knew what i was doing was 100% correct when I was walking down the isle. I have massive stage fright, and have been afraid of the "wedding" for years. When I walked down the isle with my brother by my side, all I could see was my husband waiting for me at the end. I didn't cry, I didn't shake, I had a *hit eating grin on my face from ear to ear, everything went smooth, i never turned in to bridezilla. It was perfect.

My husband never and still has never after a year of marriage and three years of being together, has never yelled at me, never hit me. He has never called me a name. He is understanding and when I'm frustrated he listens. He tells me i'm beautiful and he says that he thanks God everyday for me.

I know I am blessed and lucky to have a man like him, because there aren't that many out there. He is my bestfriend, companion, soul mate. And he makes me laugh.

You will know when it happens. It will hit you like a ton of brick, WOW i'm going to spend the rest of my life with this man.

And don't worry about being thirty. Most of my friends were married and divorced and with kids by 23. I waited till I was 25 to get married and we have no children. Just be paitent. When the good lord is ready he'll give you exactally what you are looking for. Keep your head up. Good luck

Answer 5

My husband was my best friend. It just progressed. I can't really explain it except I knew that no matter what happened I couldn't imagine being without him. We dated a year before we were married. I think it is good to spend time getting to know someone. You will NEVER FIND SOMEONE EXACTLY THE WAY YOU WANT THEM. If you love someone you learn what you can live with and what you can't and then you find a compromise. My husband is so absent-minded, loses everything and is a bit sloppy! However he is kind, compassionate, empathetic, talented, sympathetic etc.....They are more important than the others to me so i choose to overlook them.

Answer 6

the thing is you can't back out of a relationship when things go rough you have to stay by and try and get through it, because if you do it makes you stronger and closer, and you also learn. Trust me I know from experience. Marrying someone is a commitment, you should love them, and be able to talk to them easily because when you get old thats is what will matter most. You should also understand them, care about them, want to be with them or near them, and be thankful to wake up every morning to some like them.

Answer 7

Depends on how he treats you, and where his heart is. If you meet and date again and fall in love, or even like the guy a lot, if he is worth it stick out the bad time so you can enjoy the good times. If you don't see all sides of a person in bad times how can you appreciate the love. Hang in there to grep the benefits next time, you may find the man you could love, or marry.

Answer 8

Well. For me so much felt so right. someone told oh you know... well I knew just the person i couldnt stand to be without.. as same goes for them..the only pitfall to the finding.. was you always have to get up... from the bad ones to find the one... takes time... also the simplest things made me happy and im the type usually want the more "high" end things.. but what he does for me.. ment the world. good luck.

Answer 9

When I found out that she had the GI Joe Kung-Fu grip.

Actually, it was when I realized that my companionship with her was stronger than it has ever been with any other person, and that I was more than happy to put forth the effort to have a successful relationship with her.

Answer 10

I knew within months. Anytime away from him for a long period of time I would feel horrible, I can't live without my husband emotionally. I hate to say it, but you will know when you meet the one. It is hard to explain.