My boyfriend recently moved to a different city from me for reasons unrelated to our relationship. We discussed the move in detail and both agreed there was more opportunity for him in a larger metro area. He moved in with a woman, I know her and approve of her, until he is on his feet again. It bothers me a little but I trust him and I trust her. Still, though I know it is a wise economical solution, I get that little jealous feeling because, well, she becomes an important person in his life.
He came to visit me last weekend before starting his new job this Monday. We had a great time together and he called me Sunday night to tell me he made it home safely. I've not heard from him since. My feelings are badly hurt, that he didn't call to tell me how his new job was going, or just to say hello. He has had a lot on him recently and I don't want to be negative, but I'm sued to hearing from him, either my phone or via YM everyday. I'm jealous and hurt. Please help me.
2007-07-11 04:25:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a difficult situation. no, i would not be worried that they are sleeping together--but, yes--it is difficult to not become emotionally intimate with someone you live with. she gets to hear about the job, she gets to encourage, she gets to empathize, she gets share meals--all the little things that make a relationship special.
familiarity breeds comfort; comfort breeds intimacy. when you spoke so often of these plans, did it include these concerns? and there really are no men he can live with?
if possible, you should join them. good luck
2007-07-11 05:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by quiet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just really busy - that's a lot to have going on. Why are you sitting by the phone waiting for him to call? Have YOU tried to contact HIM since Sunday? If not, do you think he too is getting jealous and pouty about it?
2007-07-11 11:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a text message. How is the new job going honey? Something like that...with lots of kisses.
There's no way of knowing what is going on in his mind or life, not until you talk to him.
2007-07-11 11:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried that he hasn't called you,
When YOU haven't called him, either?
Does that mean that you have someone else in your life because you haven't gotten in touch with him?
Maybe he's upset that You didn't call him to see how his new job went.
Why waste time on being upset, when you don't even know if there's anything to be upset about?
When you get worried....then call him.
That shows him how much you care.
2007-07-11 11:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just call him and talk to him. Be honest , but gentle. I know it is hard being away from him.
Why don't you move there too? This way you can be close and be able to see each other?
2007-07-11 11:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by mamac_197030 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always best...first, call him. after you have asked all about him and in a calm and adult manner tell him how you have felt. a discussion about your feeling should help.
2007-07-11 12:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by sevynn7s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is trust and there is stupidity. Never allow your man to move in with another woman.
2007-07-11 11:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He's just really busy. Nothing to worry about. He WILL call!
2007-07-11 11:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's involved with the woman he's living with. Why isn't he living with you?
2007-07-11 11:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Bowling chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text message him this very second! What are you waiting for?
2007-07-11 11:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋